Indholdsfortegnelse for May 2019 i NEXT

A time to reflect Included in last month’s issue of NEXT was a set of conversation cards with 24 questions every woman should be asking. These were designed to get you talking about what is important to you. One of the questions was ‘If you could go back to any age, what would it be?’ I was chatting to my mum after the issue came out and she brought this question up, saying I was far too young to be answering it. My mum is in her late seventies, and says the best time in her life was her forties, when she was running her own catering business, and her fifties, when grandchildren arrived on the scene. And so, at 40, it’s quite possible that my best years are still…

I was, and I’m pretty sure most of my friends were, Spock babies. That is, children raised by parents who owned two pairs of jeans and one book on child rearing. That book was The Common-Sense Book of Baby and Child Care by Dr Benjamin Spock. My parents had two copies. One was so dog-eared it was held together by a disintegrating rubber band. The other was a slightly updated version of the same book. Your job is to decide what suits you and your baby Dr Spock ended his book with the now famous quote, “Trust yourself, you know more than you think you do.” Perhaps less well-known is the rest of what he said: “The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children, the more they…

Sometimes the first step is just to acknowledge that you’d like to change – you don’t need to know how. There is so much support out there and a whole movement of people living without alcohol. This Naked Mind: This looks at how addictive patterns work in our brain and our conditioning towards alcohol. thisnakedmind.com The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray: I loved this book – a truthful and witty read about why being sober doesn’t equal ‘sombre’ or boring. $32 Hip Sobriety: Holly Whittaker is a force. If you like your inspiration straight up with a few swear words, you’ll love Holly. hipsobriety.com No beers? Who cares! The Kiwi social movement has fantastic alcohol-free events and inspiring folk who are simply questioning the place of alcohol in…

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT Next time you catch yourself buckling under the pressure to have it all, consider these words from the unofficial first lady of feminism Gloria Steinem. “I have yet to be on a university campus where most women weren’t worried about some aspect of combining marriage, children and a career. And I’ve yet to find one where many men were worrying about the same thing.” COOL TO BE KIND If you think bitching and backstabbing is the only way to get ahead in your career, it’s time you picked up The Myth of the Nice Girl: Achieving a Career You Love Without Becoming a Person You Hate by Fran Hauser. Topping many a ‘best business book’ list since its 2018 release, its famous fans include female CEOs…

Picture this. You’re at work, trying to squeeze as much out of the final hour of the day as possible before dashing to pick up the kids from after-school sport. There’s chicken defrosting in the fridge, and the dog needs a walk. But then your phone rings, and the voice on the other end calmly explains that your dad has suffered a stroke and is in hospital, near his home at the other end of the country. Can you please get there? So you down tools, chat to the boss, call the babysitter, book a flight. And before you know it, you’re at Dad’s side, holding his hand, and wondering if he will be able to speak again soon, and how long that might take. You need to get back…

Although it may not be hard to find a phone with a decent camera, finding an exceptional one has always been a tricky business. Until now, Huawei has again raised the bar with its new P30 Pro, featuring a revolutionary Quad Camera System by renowned camera brand Leica that will lift your Instagram game to the next level. And we all know how much we love to capture that new outfit or ultimate selfie with a friend. The stars are aligned, our makeup is perfect, the lighting is just right and the angle is on point. Click away! With its Quad Camera System and artificial intelligence built-in the P30 Pro can take a great shot, no matter the conditions. Most noteworthy is the SuperZoom lens, allowing you to zoom in…

Q I used to work in a fairly corporate world and had the ‘uniform’ to match – you know, smart jackets, dresses and suits – and it was so easy! Now I’m at home with my first baby and I don’t know what to wear. I know my life has changed but I still want to look stylish and put together when I leave the house. Can you help with a smart-casual ‘uniform’ that’s practical for a new mother? A First, track pants are still working from a style perspective right now, so if that’s been your go-to, don’t stress. That said, I’m thinking if you’re used to being dressed up for work you’ll be feeling a bit too casual in them. Here are my tips for a stylishly casual,…

1 BASE If rapid coverage is the aim, a big, fluffy, very dense brush will help you cover a large surface area in a flash. Apply liquid foundation to the back of your hand, and then touch lightly with the brush before stippling, then swirling all over your face. Even less effort? Doing the same with a loose mineral powder foundation. Alternatively, a high-coverage, blendable liquid concealer dabbed on spots and shadows, then blended with fingers can achieve a flawless yet fresh finish – allowing your natural skin tone to shine through while covering patchy pigmentation and redness around the nose. If you’re keen on a more uniform approach without the look and feel of a full face of foundation, opt for the sheer, all-over coverage of a BB or…

NZ BEST IN BEAUTY Brought to you by beautyheaven, the NZ Best in Beauty Awards are back for 2019! Our editors have spent weeks narrowing down deserving finalists across more than 70 categories, and now it’s your turn to vote for your winners. Head to beautyheaven.co.nz when voting goes live on May 6, and not only will you be able to help decide which beauty brands, products and treatments come out on top, you’ll also go in the draw to win a $1500 cash prize. Shea & care Fans of The Body Shop’s iconic Shea range will be excited to learn that it has been expanded to include an ultra-nourishing shampoo, conditioner, and hair mask, as well as a multi-purpose Shea Butter that can be used to moisturise the body,…

Stay hydrated! There are two drinking fountains in Old Town, located on either side of the walls. Save money and use them to fill up your bottles. A lot of the beaches are pebblestone, so if you have weak feet like me, bring reef shoes or wear your jandals into the water (the latter are a little harder to keep on). Buses are easy to work out, but taxis and Ubers are also a cheap way to get around the city. Just be warned, at peak times we had a hard time getting one, so always leave plenty of time for travel.…

THE GOAL IS NOT TO ELIMINATE STRESS Most of us think that stress is bad for us, but this belief is part of the problem. Trying to chase away our stress or anxiety is as frustrating as having the stress in the first place. The goal is not to eliminate bad feelings, but to manage them. Whenever you think “I shouldn’t have to be dealing with this,” you increase your frustration and the sense that you cannot handle the situation. In fact, many statements that begin with “should”, “must” and “have to” only bring guilt and self-loathing. Instead, consider that the stress is actually strain, which exists without a negative value judgement. Life is about being resilient to strain and discomfort. This is adaptation, essential for your survival. Personalisation We…

Coming up roses Long used to celebrate love, there is nothing as breathtaking in its natural beauty as a rose. Barrelli presents an elegant, contemporary twist on a timeless classic: luxury Colombian roses in a curated collection of colours – beautifully packaged and delivered in bespoke round boxes. $145 – $225; barrelli.co.nz Breakfast sorted Blue Frog’s latest release is a range of three toasted cereals – Manuka Honey & Almond, Raspberry & Vanilla and Apple & Maple – all crammed with crunchy wholefoods such as oats, coconut and popped quinoa. Plant-based, fruit-free options and with less than 5.5gm of sugar per serve, they’re delicious too! $9.99; bluefrogbreakfast.co.nz Pearly whites Upgrade to a healthier mouth today with the new improved Colgate Total. It provides all the benefits of the original formula…

Here, in the rural hinterland, a woman signals she is untouchable (not by reason of plague, rather impending marriage) by sporting a gigantic diamond on the third finger of her left hand, its size in proportion to the depths of her groom-to-be’s admiration. There are some women in North Otago who are so admired they cannot do their own hair or give anyone the finger as a consequence. Now, I love me some hand bling – as long as I get to pick it myself, otherwise I end up feeling like a Christmas tree not allowed to choose its own decorations. I’ve always secretly wanted a diamond as big as the Ritz, but now that the younger man (despite his horror at how much it might cost) wants to ‘put…

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The movie I’ve watched the most in my life is… Up. I watched it at the movies and now I watch it every time I need a good cry, which is most days. My #1 heroine is… At the moment, Jacinda. I’ve always found her inspirational, but the way she’s handled recent events with such compassion has cemented that for me. I also feel like I’m the only New Zealander who has never met her. I did get an email from her once, so I’m gonna brag about that forever. IF I WERE A BILLIONAIRE, I WOULD… I don’t think there should be any billionaires. If I ever am one, I’ve probably become a bad person to get there so somebody please rob me blind. It’s too much money for…

Sharyn Casey had reservations about doing this interview. It wasn’t that she was sharing her story for the first time – she’d blogged about all of her miscarriages. “But I’ve always been in control of the narrative,” The Edge radio announcer told me over a coffee one morning. “I just don’t want to wind up looking sad in a magazine with a headline like, ‘Sharyn Casey’s tears.’” ‘Not having anyone to relate to was isolating’ Not that there haven’t been plenty of those. In the long lead-up to the birth of her son Tyson in January 2018, Sharyn – who returns to TV screens this month as co-host of Three’s Dancing with the Stars NZ – has fought a harrowing physical and emotional battle, the scars from which still run…

Talk to anyone about adoption in New Zealand and one issue will surface over and over – the Adoption Act 1955. This 63-year-old legislation is “badly outdated, discriminatory and severely dysfunctional,” says Fiona Donoghue of Adoption Action, a lobby group that aims to ensure changes to the current adoption law. “Our biggest issue is that current legislation doesn’t ensure the rights of the child are met,” says Fiona, who was adopted as a child. “Currently, the law seals your birth certificate with your birth parent(s) names until you’re 20, which means you may have no access to information about your identity until that age, and even then it’s not easy tracking down people who might have married and changed their names or moved away. Everyone has the right to know…

The world watched as we embraced each other and promised that it would be different. We looked deep inside and asked difficult questions. How can we prevent this happening again? What have we been doing that made it possible? How have I made people feel ‘other’? When have I let casual racism pass unchallenged? How do we nurture and grow the spirit of kotahitanga (unity and togetherness) that has comforted and guided us since the horror of the Christchurch Mosque attacks? As well as being about security for our community, this question goes to the heart of wellbeing and resilience for each of us – both individually and collectively. From babies to our oldest adults, we have a fundamental need to belong, to be accepted and to feel included. An…

ZOE CLARK My hairdressing career began at Servilles Academy, where I studied. After four years, I went to the UK to hone my technique, returning home five years later. I took a job at Dry & Tea after having my first child, running its NZbased salons until August 2018, when I decided it was time for a change. I set up INCO Studio alongside PØP Beauty co-directors, Serenity Fox and Imogen Bevan, because I figured having your nails done at the same time as your colour was a no-brainer. Our doors opened at the old Ponsonby Fire Sation in February. Many salons look amazing but aren’t functional. We took inspiration from maximalist interior designer Kelly Wearstler, but tried to keep a sense of calm at the same time. Lighting is…

• Have the conversation somewhere Mum or Dad feels comfortable or calm – a relaxed setting. • Jot down some ideas on paper – a bit of an outline to organise your thoughts before you begin. • You need to be quite specific in what you discuss, asking questions about who will help them make key decisions, who might support them when a health issue arises, what long-term care might look like to them, and whether they are living in a place that’s suitable for them as they age and has easy access to support services. • Be sure to empower your parents to make their own choices – centre the discussion on their freedom, their safety, and their own peace of mind, rather than yours! • Be respectful of…

1 Get the right angle. This usually means holding your phone slightly higher than normal and looking up towards the camera for a flattering shot – it gets rid of any double chins. Practise in front of the mirror to capture your best features. 2 Soften your mouth and breathe out to ensure you look relaxed. 3 Check that the light is amazing! Move around to find the ultimate spot and steer away from harsh fluorescent light. Early in the morning or late in the afternoon can often produce the best natural light. A softly backlit wall can work well, too. 4 Experiment with different poses. Just go with what is natural for you, eg pouting, grinning or a more neutral expression. 5 Take plenty of shots for plenty of…

AUCKLAND Versatile staples and chic outerwear are a must in the city of ‘four season in one day’. MODEL WEARS: Mineral Luxe long cardi , $169.99, Oliver Black tapered pants, $79.99, Mineral luxe v-neck cami top, $49.99. BEAUTY NOTES: Changeable weather calls for versatile products. This lush YSL lipstick plumps lips and adds colour, while the light floral notes in Gucci Bloom EDP create a soft, dreamy scent that’s all-season appropriate. STYLE TIP: Want to switch things up? Cinching a cardigan or coat with a contrasting belt is an easy way to update your outerwear. MOUNT MAUNGANUI Keep the beachside vibe alive with elevated basics and relaxed silhouettes. MODEL WEARS: North South Merino tie sleeve tunic, $119.99. BEAUTY NOTES: Get that beachy glow year-round by applying a warm-toned highlighter to…

Q: Which camera is the best to use to learn photography? A: If you’re brand new to photography, a good smartphone camera is a great place to start. But if you want to learn more about the principles of photography, try a DSLR (digital-lens reflex camera). Similar to a point-and-shoot camera in its ease-of-use, the overall quality and response is much better. Plus, a DSLR allows you to switch lenses. Use a telephoto lens to zoom in on far away subjects, a wide-angle lens for landscapes and fisheye lenses for getting creative! The possibilities are endless. noelleeming.co.nz/techsolutions…

I’ve always been rather smug about my skin, but having recently turned another decade older, I can no longer deny that it’s beginning to let me down in the radiance and texture stakes. Pigmentation and dullness are two problems I’m starting to face, and although they’re the result of a lot of smiling – something I’d never regret – my fine lines seem to be deepening by the day. Enter Elizabeth Arden’s new PREVAGE Progressive Renewal Treatment, an at-home peel treatment which, when used over the course of a month, targets the top four concerns we tend to battle as the years go by – radiance and clarity; fine lines and large pores; deep lines, and uneven skin tone. Said to systematically build in actives and concentration as your skin…

Unpredictable energy levels, erratic moods and, of course, chocolate cravings are all symptoms of the hormonal fluctuations that occur throughout the month for ovulating women. But if you become aware of where you’re at in your cycle, you can use this to your advantage – especially when it comes to exercise. Nutritionist and naturopath Twyla Watson explains that changing quantities of the reproductive hormones oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone impact the way our bodies respond to physical activity, giving us different strength and stamina levels at different times. If you want your hormones to work for you, simply follow her handy guide below… PHASE 1 MENSTRUATION (DAY 1 TO 5-ISH) Also known as your period, the menstruation phase occurs when your uterus sheds its inner lining of soft tissue and…

Co-Q10: A powerful antioxidant that promotes energy and fights free radicals. As the body ages, it naturally produces less Co-Q10 so it becomes increasingly important to top up. Vitamin B Complex: B vitamins are not stored in the body so are needed daily. They can also be depleted by stress, over-processed foods, sugar and alcohol. B vitamins help to increase energy and reduce tiredness and irritability. Ginkgo Brain Alert: Supports focus and clarity with key ingredients for brain health. Including ginkgo an antioxidant, guarana to support mental alertness and ginseng to help with fatigue. To contact Michelle Irving, Red Seal Naturopath, email advice@redseal.co.nz Note: This information is general in nature and does not replace the individualised advice of your healthcare professional. Read the label. Use only as directed. Caution using…

These gougères were originally created by Daniel Puskas of Sydney’s Nordic-inspired degustation restaurant, Sixpenny Emmy Award-winning TV host and best-selling cookbook author Lidia Bastianich was the brains behind this butternut squash gnocchi Marcus Wareing, the British Michelin-starred chef and MasterChef judge, came up with this delicious plum clafoutis Spaghetti with olives, anchovies and capers SERVES 4–6 PREPARATION 10 MINUTES COOKING 20 MINUTES There are plenty of classic dishes in this cookbook, including this take on spaghetti puttanesca by former Cuisine magazine food editor Ray McVinnie 4 tbsp (60ml) extra virgin olive oil 4 cloves garlic, finely chopped ¾ cup (130g) pitted Kalamata olives, halved 8 anchovy fillets, halved 4 tbsp drained capers Large pinch of red pepper/ chilli flakes 2 tbsp tomato purée/paste 2 x 400g cans chopped tomatoes in…

ARIES MAR 21 – APR 20 An attractive newcomer will add sparkle to your life this month. Whether it’s romantic or platonic is up to you but something is going to happen for sure. Mars in your birth sign makes you extra attractive so there’ll be interest from an unlikely quarter. GEMINI MAY 22 – JUN 21 Mars is still in your birth sign, with the 17th a high point between you and a soulmate. The same day signals the start of a renewed emphasis on material security. If you’re going through tensions in a relationship decide to fix it, and fast. CANCER JUN 22 – JUL 23 Your flair for making money will be evident in May. There’s also a hint of speculation in your financial thinking, not an…

Atypical morning. Gussie was grumpy because her computer wouldn’t start. Fed cats in dark as light wouldn’t go on. Worked out it was a fuse. Fixed it. Put load of washing on. Washing machine wouldn’t work. It’s broken. So that’s what tripped fuse. Cats still hungry so fed them again. Made Bram his special Home Prego Crunchy Toast as he likes it. He said it tasted funny. I gave it to the birds and made him a new batch. Gussie wants to walk to school because I am taking Brammy to the doctor about his embarrassing rash but can’t wear her sandals because they give her blisters. I gave her some socks. Bram wouldn’t eat his HPCT Mark II because it also tasted funny. Told him: it’s plain pizza bread!…

Kanoa Lloyd looked fierce in every frame. Our May cover star-in-waiting, the 31-year-old co-host of Three’s 7pm current affairs show The Project was splashed across several mock-ups on our creative director’s computer screen, channelling her unique brand of personality and professionalism in pink and purple Maggie Marilyn stripes. This cover story – focused around her personal struggles with anxiety and her advocacy for Maori representation in the media – was well underway, filled with insights about mental health, and how inclusivity and diversity on our television screens is something all Kiwis stand to gain from. And then on March 15, three weeks out from our deadline, the Christchurch mosque attacks happened, and the quotes from our interview back in December took on a new resonance. I spoke to Kanoa the…

The scarf The cardigan The shirt The coat The boots Ankle boots and midi dresses make for the ideal trans-seasonal outfit The dress The earrings The blazer The bag Tortoiseshell and snakeskin prints make a surprisingly harmonious pair The pants The wrap The skirt…

The best way to stay on-trend for autumn? Not being on trend at all. That’s right, as the way we live changes – and the way we shop changes – we’re starting to see a noticeable shift away from hard and fast ‘looks’ and more of a focus on timeless style, affordable luxury, and classics with a twist. EFFORTLESS CHIC IS ALWAYS IN STYLE One of the key ways to achieve this ‘non-trend’ trend is by building a capsule wardrobe. When it comes to the classics – the perfect coat, the timeless LBD, the cozy jumper you could live in – invest in the best quality you can afford, then add in versatile separates and unique accessories that can be dressed up or down, and mixed and matched with existing…

Let’s be honest: Mum – with all her nurturing, selfless, and unconditionally loving ways – would no doubt adore any gift you gave her, simply by virtue of it coming from you. And for some reason that seems to make the process of choosing something special even more daunting! While chocolates and flowers are classic picks for a reason, sometimes it’s nice to surprise her with something a little unexpected – think an on-trend object to brighten up her home, luxe skincare to pamper herself with, or even a new signature fragrance. Whether you’re shopping for your own mum, a mum-in-law, a special mum you know... or maybe just throwing out some subtle hints for yourself, here are our top picks for gifts less ordinary. Gift with love SHOP THE…

At the press of a button, the transparent liquid inside the ampoule transformed into the apricot colour synonymous with all PREVAGE products. A quick shake created an even milky shade, and after replacing the lid with the supplied dropper I was ready to go. After my evening cleanse, I applied the product to my face, extending it down to my décolletage and even popping some on the tops of my hands – notorious for showing age. Over the first week, my skin seemed clearer and had a glow about it, and as the weeks went on, my complexion really evened out. A clear improvement to me, it was the comments I received from peers – many of whom asked what skincare I was using – that sold me on the…

• Your periods were regular and have become irregular • Your period hasn’t restarted within three months of coming off the contraceptive pill • You’re suffering hot flashes or night sweats. Hormone tests are a good indicator, too. Follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) produces oestrogen and progesterone, and stimulates follicles (which hold eggs) to grow. Fluctuating FSH levels can indicate the number of follicles in the ovaries are low. An anti-mullerian hormone (AMH) test can also give an idea of the number of immature follicles in the ovaries. The symptoms of POI are broad, so making a diagnosis isn’t always easy, but if you are diagnosed with POI, Dr Ogilvie has some advice. “This is a difficult diagnosis, but there’s support out there, and oestrogen treatment will make you feel much…

Contrary to popular belief, not all women have a 28-day cycle and ovulate on day 14. Irregularities don’t necessarily mean your hormones need to be regulated, but consider downloading a period-tracking app like Flo, Ovia or MyFlo – all available on iPhone and Android – to help you understand your body better.You start by logging the first day of your period, and then noting down the various symptoms you observe over the course of the month. Over time, the app can take this information and use it to create a more accurate reading of your cycle. As well as allowing you to figure out the different phases of your cycle (which can be confusing, even if yours is regular!) it will indicate when you may be in your fertile window…

Date, lemon and coconut yoghurt scones The flavour possibilities are endless with this versatile scone dough MAKES 8 There are so many ways to have fun with this tender, flaky scone recipe. You could switch out the dates and lemon for prunes, oranges and poppy seeds. Alternatively, vanilla and dried figs add a lovely texture, while chocolate chunks, apricots and a pinch of spice would also be good. 2 cups wholemeal spelt flour 2 tbsp coconut sugar ½ tsp sea salt 1 tsp baking soda Zest of 1 lemon 60g hardened coconut oil or chilled unsalted butter ½ cup coconut or natural yoghurt 1 cup pitted fresh dates, roughly chopped Nut milk, for brushing 1 Preheat the oven to 200°C, and line a tray with baking paper. 2 Combine the…

Ten minutes after the removal men have left, I realise I’m missing something. Not my little apartment, which has been my refuge for the past two years; that sense of missing will crash in later. Right now, standing in my new cavernous home, I’m missing my Yucca palm trees. I race through the many huge rooms, skidding around mountains of boxes, some of which, distressingly, have split open and are spewing out books and papers. The gleaming parquet floor that looked so charming on first viewing creaks alarmingly under my bounding house plant-seeking feet. ‘Where are you, Yuccas? Please, please don’t be lost!’ I’m actually the opposite of a plant person – I have been known to kill them on sight – but Yucca palms are amazingly resilient, capable of…