1 DIVIDE AND CONQUER
Start by setting your total guest count, then divvy it up among you, your parents, and your future in-laws. Lizzie Post, president of the Emily Post Institute, suggests splitting it in one of two ways: One, give equal thirds to you and your groom, your parents, and his parents. Or, two, keep 50 percent as a couple and assign 25 percent to each set of parents. (With multiple sets, each side gets 25 percent total.) If you’re footing the bill, you may want to increase your stake, and that’s OK. Just remember: You must offer the same allotment to his parents as yours, regardless of who is paying for what.
2 ACCOUNT FOR PACKAGE DEALS
You have to ask your officiant’s spouse, the parents of children…