Table of contents for 6/12/2019 in Move!

We live in a time where everything is expensive; electricity, petrol and food prices are high. It is hard to even spoil yourself, never mind offer a helping hand to someone else. Tsalanang Social Club members are selfless and have dedicated themselves to their community and are trying to make a difference. They are proof that change starts with us. Start in your community Community work does not need to be expensive or require money at all. Look at the challenges in your community and start there. It can be picking up paper and broken bottles in a nearby park. It can be donating your old blankets and clothes to a shelter near you as a group. It may not mean anything to you, but to those that receive these…

IT takes a lot of courage to do what he does and it’s not a job for the fainthearted, he believes. And it certainly looked like a lot – the shocking revelations of cheating, one man finding out his son isn’t his and a whole lot of restrained violence – all in 30 minutes. But it turns out all of it might have all been a show put on for TV. Now, once again, hip-hop musician Molemo ‘Jub Jub’ Maarohanye is in the spotlight for all the wrong reasons. He’s the host of the new Moja Love TV show Uyajola 9/9, which debuted last month to rave reviews. Who wouldn’t love the drama of an acharselling mama who’s been having a long-term affair with a neighbour, while her unsuspecting husband…

THERE’S always a reason to pop champagne and eat fancy food. For e.tv, any good season is a great reason to celebrate, so the channel threw a gala dinner to celebrate their good fortune. Musicians; Tamara Dey, Lady Zamar and Saxophonist kept the crowd entertained at the dinner, which was held at Melrose Arch. The e.tv drama Imbewu: The Seed is the fastest growing drama on the channel. Scandal! has gone from strength to strength. Rhythm City has also remained a favourite.…

THEY’RE the heart of many households, keeping the wheels turning as they cook, clean and take care of kids. Many people will readily admit they’d be lost without their domestic workers. And yet a shocking new report shows that despite all their hard work and loyalty, many domestic workers are shamelessly exploited. THE STATS It’s painful to imagine someone being paid just R110 for eight hours of backbreaking work. Yet this is what many of the respondents surveyed by domestic service company, SweepSouth receive. In its annual report on pay and working conditions, the cleaning outfit interviewed 1 300 domestic workers and found an alarming 43% were only being paid between R1 100 and R3 000 per month. This is much lower than the R275-R300 per day rate the South…

SHE used the last R13 in her purse to catch a taxi to the audition, then beat the odds to rise through the ranks of The Voice South Africa in 2016. And although Thembeka Mnguni didn’t win the competition the whole country knows who she is now. Her powerhouse voice landed her a contract with Universal Music and gigs around Mzansi and overseas too – but as wonderful as it all is, having a steady income and a bright future means a lot more to her than personal success and fulfilment of a dream. DAILY STRUGGLE The 35-year-old single mom can now afford the fees for her seven-year-old son, Sabelo, to attend a special needs school. Sabelo is autistic and the challenges of raising him are many, she says. She…

CREDIT CRUNCH So, you’ve received a credit card application? You know what it says, but do you know what it really means? ■ It says: You have demonstrated financial responsibility. It means: You’re breathing! ■ It says: Our membership is difficult to obtain. It means: Supermax prisoners aren’t eligible! ■ It says: We have shortened the application process. It means: We need lots of new members fast or we’ll go out of business! ■ It says: You have no predetermined credit limit. It means: We’re not worried, we employ the Break-Your-Legs collection agency. ■ It says: We offer exceptional customer service ... It means: Except when you need it! ■ It says: To apply for membership, fill out this short form ... It means: You’ll get the long form later.…

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‘I'VE COMMITTED AN UNLAWFUL ACT BUT I WANT TO MAKE SURE THE ATTORNEY WON'T REPORT ME’ Nthabiseng Monareng holds LLB and LLM degrees from Wits University. Nthabi has more than 10 years experience in the legal field, specialising in family law. She’s written books on family law and is a family law mediator. MY INSURANCE WANTS ME TO PAY THE EXCESS Q A drunk driver drove into my car and my insurance company wants me to pay the excess before they can fix my car. Am I legally obliged to pay the excess? ANONYMOUS, FOURWAYS A An excess is the amount payable by you in the event of a claim that you lodge with your insurance company. When you take out an insurance policy, you're normally advised that there will…

‘I DON'T WANT ANOTHER MAN PROVIDING FOR MY CHILD’ Mama Madikgetla is a registered social worker in private practice. She provides counselling to individuals, couples and families. She holds a Bachelor of Social Work, an honours degree in psychology and is currently pursuing a master’s degree in social work. Q ANOTHER MAN IS SUPPORTING MY SON I'm 28 and my ex-girlfriend is 24 years old. We have a son together and we live in different provinces. My problem is that her new boyfriend is supporting my child. There are times when I hear that my child needs something and her boyfriend provides it. I don't want another man providing for my child because I'm capable of doing it. ANONYMOUS, PRETORIA A You are a responsible father and your child is…

■ Do have a chat with your child before the friend arrives, educational psychologist Carina says. “Decide together if you want to pack away certain toys your child doesn’t want to share with others. Talk about how they can make the friend feel special and what snacks your child can offer them, and when.” ■ Don’t constantly suggest games and activities, clinical psychologist Naomi says. “Remember, kids learn by playing and if you organise and manage everything they’re not learning to do so themselves." ■ Do give them a chance to sort out conflict by themselves first, but intervene if it turns into bickering or bullying, Naomi says.…

GOD is always looking for someone to use so He can mend those whose souls are crushed as a result of unpleasant encounters. He needs someone to pull back those in affliction, someone to impact them, transform and change their lives. Someone who will speak from a place of a scar so the wounded can practically see that survival is possible. AGAINST ALL ODDS I looked at the book of Job 1 and when the Bible introduces us to this man, it lists his amazing biography. One could almost think it would then say, “And therefore, he lived a beautiful life since he was upright and blameless in the sight of God”. But not long after we meet Job, we see a complete turn of events. We witness him facing…

LOOKING FOR MOM FRIENDS I’m a 22-year-old mother of one and am looking for female friends with children. They must be between the ages of 22 and 25. I am from Ebony Park in Midrand and I’m looking for friends around there. If interested, please WhatsApp me on: 081 406 7767 ARE YOU A SINGLE LADY? I’m a 24-year-old guy from Gauteng. I’m looking for a single lady between the ages of 20 and 24 from around Gauteng. If you are interested, please WhatsApp me on: 074 963 6990 A FREE SPIRITED AND BEAUTIFUL WOMAN I’m a 46-year-old man who is employed by the government and lives in Hammanskraal, north of Pretoria. I am divorced and am a single parent of a 12-year-old boy. I am looking for a lady…

LADIES, we should never allow exploitation to continue. Not with our mothers, our sisters, our daughters, our cousins, our aunties, our friends or ourselves. There is just too much of it happening in South Africa, often to the most vulnerable and poor. A shocking statistic emerged in our story on page 22 about domestic workers’ rights and it is clear some are being horribly exploited. The law is very clear on what a helper should be paid and how much overtime and time off should be given. There are also clear rules on things like Unemployment Insurance Fund so there are no excuses for people who say they didn’t realise they had to do these things for their helpers. Let us know if you know of any domestic helpers being…

THERE seemed to be nothing positive about being in a car crash that leaves you confined to a wheelchair – but Edwina Makgamatha (33) managed to make lemonade out of lemons. The entrepreneur took her life savings and started an enterprise that delivers medical supplies, such as catheters, gauze swabs, surgical tapes, bandages and antiseptic cream, to the doorsteps of disabled people. She started her company, Thusanang Enabling Support Services, three years ago, after a horrific car crash in 2010 left her unable to walk. She had to move out of her second-storey flat and had to adjust how she cared for her two young children. Edwina returned to her job at the logistics company where she worked for three years but there were obstacles. The office lifts not working,…

WOMEN play an important role in our society but the strength of women is hardly celebrated. Join Move! for a day of empowerment as you get information on how to celebrate your efforts at work, home, in society and in your stokvel. Our speakers will influence you to turn your life around and start appreciating all the things, no matter how small. The Move! stokvel event is a not-to-be missed event where we bring various experts to cover various topics like beauty, finances, running your stokvel like a 21st century organisation. The event will also show you how you can bring your goals to life.…

SHE’S often up with the chickens every morning. They are her bread and butter after all, so farmer Judith Mabitsela (48) loves nothing more than the sound of a rooster crowing in the morning. Judith, who is based in Mokopane in Limpopo, started farming chickens in 2015 and today sells about 40 000 chickens in a cycle. “In a year there are eight cycles which we have to produce the 40 000 chicken per cycle,” she explains. PLANTING THE SEED She’s always loved farming and learnt the basics when she was a little girl. “It was school in the morning, then right after I would help my grandmother with her cattle and sheep in a village outside Polokwane called Moletjie and to thinking about it now, back then the only…

Public holidays: Working on these days is voluntary. Should they work on public holidays, employees should receive double pay or be paid a day’s wages and receive another day off in lieu. Annual leave: Full-time workers are entitled to 15 days of paid leave. Sick leave: Employees can take up to six weeks of leave in three years of employment. In the first six months of employment, domestic workers are entitled to one day paid sick leave for every 26 days worked. Maternity leave: Domestic workers are entitled to a minimum of four months unpaid maternity leave. Family responsibility: They’re entitled to five days paid family responsibility leave every year.…

THEY weren’t expected to survive a day outside the womb. Fused at the torso, they shared an abdomen, pelvis, liver, kidney and large intestine and had just two legs between them. Doctors told their parents to say goodbye to them soon after the traumatic birth – but Kendra and Maliyah Herrin weren’t going anywhere. AGAINST ALL ODDS The girls are now 17-year-old high school students with their own YouTube channel and an infectious love of life. They’re also navigating the world on just one leg each after a harrowing operation that effectively cut them in half when they were four years old. But they’re happy their parents chose to separate them, Maliyah said in a recent interview. “The feeling of being attached to someone else is weird,” Kendra said, adding…

BODYCON DRESS  Show off your shape in this figure-hugging dress. Dress it up with heels and a fur jacket for a night out or keep it low-key with sneakers and a denim jacket. For the office, wear it with a coat, stockings and ankle boots. TIP Invest in a bodycon outfit for a slimmer look. Darker colours are more flattering. LOOK one LOOK two TIP A denim jacket is a great investment that looks good with almost everything. LOOK three COAT  A camel coat is a winter must-have that goes with most outfits. Here we’ve paired it with neutrals, browns, yellow and black for a sophisticated look. TIP This season’s waterfall melton coats will elevate your classic workwear. LOOK one TIP Calf-slimming skirts are key for stylish winter wear. LOOK…

SPANISH CHICKEN STIR-FRY SERVES: 4 PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 35-40 MIN ■ 4 chicken breast fillets, cut into strips ■ Salt and freshly ground pepper ■ 5ml (1t) dried oregano ■ 30ml (2T) olive oil ■ 1 onion, chopped ■ 2 garlic cloves, crushed ■ 2 chillies, finely chopped ■ 45ml (3T) tomato paste ■ 1 can (410g) diced tomatoes ■ 125ml (½c) chicken stock ■ 500g baby potatoes, cooked and halved ■ 1 red pepper, diced ■ 15ml (1T) smoked or regular paprika ■ 1ml (¼t) ground cinnamon ■ Pinch of ground nutmeg ■ Juice and zest of 1 lemon TO FINISH ■ chopped parsley 1 Season the chicken strips with the salt, pepper and oregano. Heat the oil in a large pan and fry the chicken in batches…

Dr Babalwa Funda kaMabhoza is an educational sexologist and business woman. She is a member of the South African Sexual Health Association (SASHA) and African Society for Sexual Medicine (ASSM). Q I CAN’T WAIT TO HAVE SEX I gave birth four weeks ago and the doctor gave me strict instructions that I need to wait for at least six weeks before having sex again. This has been the longest time I have not had sex and I can’t wait. ANONYMOUS, DURBAN A Healing usually takes six weeks, which is also often your first appointment with the gynae after giving birth. In that six weeks, torn and sutured muscles will heal. If tampered with, it could lead to the breaking of the sutures and delay the healing of the muscles once…

Thuli Bottoman, senior counselling social worker at the Family Life Centre in Johannesburg, says: “Your gogo is living her own life and you are not responsible for her. The same applies to your ex-boyfriend. Since you are no longer an item, you should not care much about who he's romantically involved with. It's very interesting that you seem to be raising serious concerns about your ex-boyfriend who you neglected to reveal to your family in the past, especially regarding his identity as your baby daddy. The big question you need to answer is, who are you protecting by not telling the child who their father is? You have been protecting this man all your child’s life but they will want to know about their paternity at some stage. Secrets have…

“I’ve just come out of a nasty divorce. I was in a very toxic situation with a man who was willing to go to great lengths to frustrate me. He was unfaithful and verbally abusive towards me, but he strongly believed his behaviour was normal. Despite my deep dislike of him owing to his treatment of me during our six-year marriage, my main fear is for our two children. He’s now threatening not to pay maintenance for them. They love him so much, and I’m scared what the divorce will do to them. Can you advise me on how to manage a co-parenting relationship after such a messy breakup?” FUSTRATED WOMAN TO a child, divorce is like a death with no funeral and it fundamentally changes their entire worldview and…

TYMEBANK ■ Who owns it? African Rainbow Capital (ARC), helmed by billionaire businessman Patrice Motsepe. ■ Selling point No monthly fees. ■ How customers transact The bank will roll out 720 kiosks at Pick n Pay and Boxer stores. You can open up an account and get a personalised Visa debit card within five minutes. ■ What customers pay Free cash withdrawals at Pick n Pay and Boxer stores, R2 at other major retailers and R8 per R1 000 at all ATMs countrywide. R2 per debit order. ■ What other products will it offer? Currently it’s just savings accounts, transactional banking and money transfers. Personal loans to follow. ■ Launch date You can apply for an account online at tymebank.co.za. ‘WE WANT TO BROADEN THE REACH OF FINANCIAL SERVICES’– CEO…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

WORKPLACES are usually very hostile due to the kind of people we work with. Yet I have been blessed with very supportive colleagues. We have started a club where we do social activities together over the weekends such as running, hiking and reading books, among others. It’s true that it is less intimidating and more encouraging to try new things with other people who support one another. Our team consists of all ages, genders and sizes, and are friendly to one another. Many of my experiences and lessons have come through people I teamed up with. I went from running just over a kilometre every once in a while to running 5km every weekend. I am now totally in love with running. Our dream is to run the Comrades Marathon…

Join your Move! stokvel ambassador, Nonzwakazi Cekete, as your host. ■ Nedbank’s strategic relationship & customer education manager, Gert Adams, will talk about how easy it is to open a Nedbank Stokvel Account and the value that this account offers. ■ Avon Justine representative Nomvula Mazibuko will introduce the speakers on the day who will share how you can become an independent Avon Justine representative and earn extra money. ■ Ratna Siriah, business head for Zee World, will be speaking about the new series Mehek – a world first for an Indian series to feature an African cast. Zee World is invested in local talent and bringing the best of Bollywood series. ■ An AVBOB representative, will talk about the benefits of planning for the future with AVBOB. ■ Miladys…

SHE was a familiar face in households across Mzansi when she hosted the Zama Zama game show on SABC1 in the 1990s, and Nomsa Nene has once more settled comfortably into her role as a household name. Her 16-year break from performing ended when she took a role on e.tv’s Broken Vows in 2016, and she’s currently starring as the witch MaMthembu on season two of Mzansi Magic’s The Herd. The vibrant actress with the warm, wide smile left TV to become a businesswoman, running a property company – with a little helpful advice from an American reality TV star Donald Trump. When she was getting into the property business, Nomsa (60) tells Move!, she read all of the businessman-turned-TV-star-turned-president’s books on business. “They were very useful,” she says. She…

SHE’s been compared to the likes of musos Lady Zamar, Simmy and Bucie Nkomo. But the new female vocalist behind the huge hits Bhutiza and Visa by DJ Mobi Dixon, Nichume Siwundla (27), says her contemporary sound is incomparable, and people should get used to the click in her name because she will be around for a very long time. “I love all those female singers, but I’m in my own lane,” she says with confidence. GOING SOLO Her career got a boost with the December hit Bhutiza, which dominated charts for weeks. Since then, it’s been a busy time for Nichume, who’s working on releasing her not-yet-titled solo project featuring the likes of Anga Makubalo, Mpumi, Lerato Mvelase and T.Love. GETTING STARTED Born and raised in East London, in…

“These are legal requirements. Failure to comply is breaking the law,” says Aisha Pandor, CEO of SweepSouth. Gloria Kente (RIGHT), a representative for the SA Domestic Service and Allied Workers Union (Sadsawu), says the union deals with many cases each week involving employers who treat their workers unfairly. She says domestic workers who are being inadequately paid or badly treated should reach out to Sadsawu. “If employers don’t want to pay we take them to the Department Of Labour. The department must deal with the employer and we do a follow-up.”Chief director for labour relations at the Department Of Labour, Thembinkosi Mkalipi, says the department has inspectors who investigate these cases. They have the power to hit errant employers with penalties and make them compensate their workers. Alternatively, workers can…

1 In her recent French Open match against Russia’s Vitalia Diatchenko, Serena Williams wore a custom black and white two-piece designed by? A Dries van Noten B Junya Watanabe C Virgil Abloh D Olivier Rousteing 2 Rapper Cardi B recently bought her daughter, Kulture, diamond jewellery worth more than ...? A R10 000 B R80 000 C R250 000 D R1,1 million 3 Who is the new chancellor of the University of Limpopo? A Naledi Pandor B Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma C Bathabile Dlamini D Mbuyiseni Ndlozi 4 Former British prime minister Theresa May was the ... woman elected into the position? A 1st B 2nd C 5th D 8th 5 Which of these plays was not written by William Shakespeare? A A King and No King B Othello C As You…

Wax for body hair HARD 1 If you’re using heated wax, warm it up to the temperature indicated on the packaging. If it’s too hot it will burn your skin, but if it’s not warm enough it won’t work properly. 2 Once warmed, apply the wax on clean skin in the direction of the hair growth. Put the strip that comes with it on top of the applied wax. Press it down firmly. 3 Wait for the wax too cool, hold the skin taut with one hand and using your other hand, pull the strip off in the opposite direction of the hair growth. Do this in a quick motion. 4 Repeat the above steps on desired areas. 5 Use a cooling pack or cool cloth on the areas you’ve…

Clement Fana Ntuli is a motivational speaker and author of the book Turning Trials Into Triumph. Do you have any HIVrelated questions? Email your question to Clement at clemntuli@yahoo.com. IF you’ve been on this HIV journey for any length of time, you will have come across some of the acronyms associated with the virus that are often thrown around. For example, you hear people talking about PEP, PrEP and ARVs, often without much understanding of what they are or how they can affect you. In a nutshell, these three are all antiretroviral drugs offered or administered in different scenarios of dealing with HIV. Although they are closely related, it's important to know the difference between them and where they might be applicable in your journey with HIV. When it comes…

GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUN You might come face to face with doomsday prophets and the heavyhearted, with little escape from their gloom. Don’t let this prevent you from mingling, as you might bring others happiness and cheer. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 14, 15, 21, 33, 39, 47 CANCER 21 JUN – 21 JUL It’s a good time to dump failing methods, get rid of sabotaging habits and let go of negative emotions long past their sell-by date. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 20, 24, 32, 40, 51 LEO 22 JUL – 22 AUG Your social life is picking up this week, whether that means more interaction with your friends, an increase in group activities or added club events. Danger or excessiveness lurks, particularly at the onset of the week. YOUR…

Are you taking contraceptive pills that have a seven-day break? Well, according to recent reports there’s no need for this break and the consequent bleed – and, therefore, expensive tampons! So why have we been doing it like this for over 60 years? To please the pope, apparently. The seven-day break was a plan devised by American obstetrician and gynaecologist, John Rock, in the hope the pope would accept the pill and allow Catholics to use it, University College London’s Professor John Guillebaud told The Telegraph. New guidelines have now been issued in the UK to assure women the contraceptive pill can be safely taken every day of the month.…

SIBUSISO THANJEKWAYO Parents know what matters. Irrespective of the past, those kids deserve love from both of you. Never allow circumstances to halt your kids from being good citizens. We have too many broken people amongst us. THOBILE LOMBENI NOMLUNGISI You need something new to focus on, instead of rewinding all the toxicity you're going through. You can join a church choir, or a support group such as FAMSA and attend therapy together as a family. ZIPHO H MZILIKAZI Divorce is always hard. Children are caught in the middle but you can put your children's needs first. Like it or not, the children need their father as well. If he's up to it, draft a schedule that suits both of you and the children.…

1 You wake up at 6am on a dark and chilly winter morning. What would most likely be your first reaction? A You would pull the duvet over your head and enjoy snuggling down in bed. B You would get up and get on with your day as normal. C You would get up and go for a bracing walk before breakfast. 2 It’s mid-winter, freezing cold and icy, when a newly released movie that you’d really like to see arrives at your local cinema. It is being shown at 8pm each evening. Would you be happy to go and see it? A No, you’d wait for it to come out on DVD. B You’d check the showing times and hope there’s a daytime showing when it would be warmer…

IT was all love when the Monatisa family, from Steelpark in the Vaal, recently celebrated their father’s the 60th birthday. Nathane Gabriel Monatisa’s dinner party had a black and gold theme and was held at the exclusive Stonehaven on Vaal near the banks of the Vaal River. The event was attended by Nathane’s family and friends, including his wife Mamokete Monatisa, children Mmafoka Chokoe, Palesa Monatisa and Thabile Monatisa and grandchildren Onalerona Monatisa, Omphetse Monatisa and Tlotliso Chokoe. Guests enjoyed a sumptuous buffet dinner. Nathane received many gifts, including a watch, gown, slippers and personalised towels. The special day left Nathane overjoyed at the appreciation and love he received from all the guests.…