Table of contents for 7/10/2019 in Move!

THERE are many things to complain about in life. Sometimes it is very easy to complain instead of appreciating what we have or try to find solutions to our problems. One person who learnt to be grateful for everything he has, is Liko Manxumakazi. And he learnt it the hard way: his life changed for the better the day he became blind. It was only after this disastrous blow to his health that Liko was able to get himself off the streets. Now he has learnt some skills and is even studying to improve his life. Becoming blind, he tells us, was one of the best things that could have happened to him. Read his inspiring story on page 16 and let us know your thoughts on it: move@media24.com THE…

‘I WOULD HELP MY FRIENDS WHO COULDN’T READ’ THE confident young lady who strides into our offices is every bit as polished and professional as any other author we’ve met. Buhle Mthethwa is just 11 years old and she’s the latest sensation to hit the Mzansi literary world. Her book, The Big Fat Naughty Cat, has earned the the right to join the exclusive ranks of authors who have been published in childhood. GETTING STARTED Her writing career started when she was in Grade 1, Buhle says. She was just learning to read and loved the written word so much she soon mastered the art. “After school I would help my friends who couldn’t read and write properly,” she recalls. Buhle, who’s now in Grade 6, loved reading so much…

I LOVE HOW PEOPLE ARE EMOTIONALLY INVESTED IN MY CHARACTER! USELESS. Stupid. Annoying. These words have been thrown at one of TV’s most hated characters – and even directly at the young woman who plays her. And Motsoaledi Setumo (28) has portrayed the timid Mmabatho Khoza on The Queen so excellently that people have been attacking the actress in real life. In a way it is a compliment, the bubbly star tells Move!, because it shows she is doing a great job. SHE HAD ONE JOB Fans will know that Mmabatho could have saved the powerful Khoza family – including her husband – as well as her own loved ones, the Mabuzas, from rotting in jail if she had only completed the one job given to her. All she had…

HE THOUGHT it would last forever when he and his wife walked down the aisle almost 20 years ago. He was sure they would only be separated by death. But now televangelist Pastor Enoch Phiri has been served with papers by his wife, Busisiwe, after 18 years of marriage, he tells Move!. And the Taking Dominion presenter is still in shock. The couple have been living apart for months, but it was only when Busisiwe was spotted dancing at a party celebrating her “freedom” that congregants and fans knew it was over for good between the two. IT’S OVER The presenter of Taking Dominion on DStv’s Christian channel TBN in Africa (channel 343) says he is devastated by his marriage ending. “I have to be honest, as a church leader,…

THE LIE DETECTOR A dad buys a lie-detector robot which slaps people when they lie. He decides to test it at dinner. “Son, where were you today?” “At school,” the son says. The robot slaps the boy. “Okay, okay! I watched a movie at my friend’s house.” “What movie?” the dad asks. “Toy Story,” the son replies, receiving another slap. “Okay, fine! It was a naughty movie!” “What! When I was your age I didn’t watch naughty movies,” the dad says. The robot slaps him too. “Ha! He’s certainly your son,” the mom says. The robot turns around and slaps her too! LOVE AND MARRIAGE ■ Love is holding hands in the street. Marriage is holding arguments in the street. ■ Love is talking about having children. Marriage is talking…

peta-Lee Q WHAT TREND SHOULD I INVEST IN RIGHT NOW? A I would invest in check pants – also known as Rupert Bear pants. (Who would have thought that someday we’d be wearing pants that got their name from a kid’s nerdy cartoon show? ) Well, Rupert is making his mark in the fashion industry and, let me tell you, these are the pants and prints many women will be wearing in the upcoming season! How to wear check pants? Firstly, be bold. They are versatile and can be worn on both formal and casual occasions. If you’re not that into prints but still want to wear the pants, keep the top part neutral and let your pants take centre stage. For the more confident lady, mix prints and patterns…

MY YOUNGER brother was infected with HIV at birth by my late parents. We didn’t tell him until he was 11 years old and had to start treatment as he was getting sick time and again. The problem is he's refusing to take his medication. When we push him he pretends to take it but then spits it out. Please help. ANONYMOUS, VIA EMAIL STARTING ARVs is a giant step for adults, let alone for kids who have tested HIV positive. Although there's proof ARVs are effective in suppressing and managing HIV, there's still reluctance among some people to take them. This is even more challenging for those infected at birth. ‘YOU NEED TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOU'RE NOT TRAINED TO HANDLE THIS’ FEELING BETRAYED There's a difference between accepting the consequences…

WE WOULDN’T be able to survive without it. When we get hurt it’s inflammation that causes our body’s natural defence system to kick in and send white blood cells rushing to the scene to help it heal. But inflammation can also harm us. Prolonged or chronic inflammation has been found to contribute to conditions such as asthma, hay fever, arthritis, heart disease, Alzheimer’s, diabetes and depression. Dr Carl Albrecht of the Cancer Association of South Africa (Cansa) believes inflammation is also the breeding ground of cancer cells. Some experts, such as nutritional therapist Vanessa Ross, say it’s the root cause of all illness, since chronic inflammation happens when the immune system continually releases harmful inflammatory chemicals, even when there’s no injury to heal. “It can develop over months or years,”…

1 Explain to your children that you work to earn money and every cent is precious. This will help them to save and spend more wisely. 2 Get them to set goals and chart them. They can personalise their chart by, for example, making a drawing to depict the goal or using a clipping from a magazine. This way their goal is at the top of their mind and they can check their progress. 3 If your child wants a new toy car or a doll, suggest they save up for it (they can even make a chart). Once they have enough money, take them shopping and let them pay for the item themselves. They’ll probably take better care of it and appreciate it far more than if it were…

‘ANYONE WHO LOVES IS A CHILD OF GOD AND KNOWS GOD’ LOVE is the greatest commandment of all. This is written in the holy book of life. As Christians, this is a commandment the church teaches. But is it something Christians are just paying lip service to or are they abiding by this commandment as devoted servants of God’s word? Love may be hard in instances where someone has hurt you or done something to you that is holding you back. This may end up creating pain and hatred in you. For this reason, forgiveness is important because when your heart is not right with God, your Christian life becomes compromised. Let’s look at what the Bible has to say about love. GOD IS LOVE When people say, “God is…

Nowadays we seem to have developed a very bad habit of throwing rubbish all over the place, feeding rodents in the process – something that’s become problematic ekasi. With this type of behaviour, getting rid of rats will take a long time. Littering puts our lives, particularly those of our children, in jeopardy and leaves us vulnerable to infectious diseases. We dump dirt and plastics in rivers, causing water and air pollution. That puts the lives of animals at risk. There are designated walking places and dumping areas at our recreational parks yet we choose to walk on the lawn and litter everywhere. Motorists also throw stuff out of their car windows, including lit cigarette butts. Joburg used to be rated among the cleanest and tidiest cities in the world…

WITH chart-toppers like Naaa Meaan and Imma Boss, Nadia Nakai has built a reputation in SA hip-hop. Now the 29-year-old has dropped her long-awaited debut album three years after bursting onto the scene. “I’m extremely nervous, I’m scared but excited at the same time. The emotions keep on getting mixed up because it’s been a long time coming,” she says. We find out more about the rapper and her new record, Nadia Naked, which dropped last month. THE PROCESS She’s nervous about what people will think of the album, which has been in the pipeline for a few years. But Nadia has learnt all about patience these past few years waiting for the record’s release. “There were times I felt demotivated but I always knew the album would come out.…

A break-up can present unique challenges to the couple, their children and extended family. Experts advise that you approach this challenging time with a positive mindset and with everyone’s best interests at heart. “To suddenly have to let go of your mutual hopes, dreams and plans after many years together isn't easy,” says Irene Motaung, a social worker who specialises in family and divorce mediation. “They also feel a loss of security, financially, emotionally and otherwise.” It can be like mourning a loved one and there is also a loss of a sense of belonging, she says. “People start to ask themselves, ‘Who am I, now that I'm losing my role in the family and have to detach from some relationships, especially with the in-laws?’” Phumzile Ndlovu, a registered counsellor…

IT’S a bitterly cold Friday morning in Bloemfontein and the waiting room is packed with coughing, sniffing people waiting to see the doctor. Nothing unusual about that, you might think – doctors’ waiting rooms are usually busy at this time of year with colds and flu going around. But Dr Paulo de Valdoleiros’ surgery in Westdene is a little different. Here it doesn’t matter if your medical aid has run out or your bank balance is severely in the red – no one is turned away. And no one is asked to pay a cent more than they can afford. THE GO-TO GUY Walk-in Doctor, Paulo’s small practice in an old house on Kellner Street, is exactly what the name says: a practice where anyone can walk in and be…

SHE lived a full life, with a promising career at a bank and a happy home. She and her partner had big dreams – they were looking forward to a future together as husband and wife and her little girl was growing up fast. But Nomathamsanqa Swartbooi’s dreams were snuffed out in a heartbeat when she learnt she was “married” to a man she didn’t know. Her identity had been stolen – and so began over a decade of frustration and heartache for the Joburg woman. Thami, as everyone calls her, discovered the shocking news when she went to cast her vote in the 2006 municipal elections. To her dismay officials told her that her surname had been changed on the voters’ roll. Thami Swartbooi was now Thami Nofemeli. For…

THE best shampoo is the one that leaves your locks looking and feeling the best. First identify your hair type: is it curly, thick, colour-treated or fine? Then establish if it needs replacement of moisture, oils or protein, added treatment or just cleansing. Once you know your hair type and needs, it’s easier to find the correct cleanser. HOW TO SHAMPOO YOUR HAIR ■ Wet your hair with warm water. Pour a coin-sized amount of shampoo in the palm of your hands, and rub them together. ■ Run your hands through your hair, distributing the product evenly through your strands in strokes. ■ Rinse off the first application and apply shampoo again. The first round removes product build-up, and the second gives your hair a good clean. ■ Massage your…

‘ARE WE ALLOWED TO SMOKE MARIJUANA IN PUBLIC NOW?’ Q CAN A CHILD BE EXPELLED FOR FEE NONPAYMENT? Are private schools subjected to the same rules as public schools in South Africa? Can they expel a child when the parents can't afford school fees? ANONYMOUS, MIDRAND A Children have the right to education. However, children don't have the right to private education. A parent enters into a contract with a private school and if they can no longer afford the fees, it's best they remove the child. A child can attend a public school without paying fees. At private school, a child can be expelled for not paying fees. CHILD CONTRACT At what age can a child sign and enter into a legal contract? ANONYMOUS, BRITS A A child must…

‘I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND BUT I CAN'T ACCEPT HIS CHILD AND I WANT TO END OUR RELATIONSHIP’ Q MY MAN IS ON DRUGS I'm 22 years old and my boyfriend is 28. He cares for me and gives me everything I need but I recently found out that he's using drugs. He said there's no need for me to worry. How do I help him to stop because I know what drugs can do? ANONYMOUS, GOODWOOD A Drug abuse has negative effects on the user and the people close to them. The constant use of drugs leads to addiction, which is a more serious condition and affects the general wellbeing of the user. The negative effects may be emotional, physical and psychological. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do to…

EXTRA VIRGIN OLIVE OIL It helps protect against chronic diseases as it contains compounds that show potent anti-inflammatory actions, according to a 2011 report by Australia’s Deakin University. Now there’s a good reason to drizzle a little over your salads. BROCCOLI It’s not everyone’s favourite but broccoli contains the compound isothiocyanates (also in cauliflower and Brussels sprouts) that can help to stop inflammation, Ross says. Broccoli also contains potent antioxidants, making it a powerful fighter in cancer prevention, she adds. WALNUTS A study in the Journal of the American Medical Association reported participants who regularly ate walnuts showed a significant improvement in inflammation levels. Another study found those who ate the most nuts and seeds had the lowest levels of inflammatory markers in their blood. Enjoy a small handful a…

LIBERTY NHLAPO I'm not a romantic person either. I express love and loyalty through communication. I don’t feel comfortable doing hugs and kisses around people. ELEANOR RADEBE He just loves differently, accept that. I wonder how he became your boyfriend if he doesn’t tell you he loves you? KHAYA MAIMANE Have you ever spoken to him about your insecurities? Your silence may actually be giving him the impression that all is good. SONWABO SOX NDABAMBI Don’t wait for him to start something. Start by telling him how you love him and cuddle and take it from there.…

HE FELL in love with the art of cooking when he was a boy and even though he tried to pursue other career paths, his love for cooking kept calling him. Chef Ukhonaye Mconi (24) grew up in the township of KwaNobuhle in Uitenhage, Eastern Cape. He and his sister, Usisipho (16), lived with their parents, Daniswa Ndlondlo (52) and Sipho Mconi (55), before the couple divorced. After matriculating from Muir College Boys’ High School, Ukhonaye moved to Cape Town to study for a certificate in business principles and practice at Varsity College. After that he took a gap year and went back home. “My parents thought I was being difficult when I told them I wanted to study to become a chef,” Ukhonaye says. He’d started cooking at the…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

DJ Sbu has called for the youth to stop being job seekers and to start looking at opening their own businesses as certain jobs will disappear in 10 years. Move! readers have their say. Easy for him to say, it’s always nice pointing at things from a distance when you’re not the one who has to actually take part in them. MARY VAN WYK Good idea, but easier said than done. BONGANI MGUBELA That’s the point and I am 100% behind him. We should stop looking for jobs and start our own businesses. We are young, we have energy and the power to turn South Africa’s economy around. Let’s not hide behind the excuse of not having start-up capital, we can run businesses that don’t need it. REAL CASWELL MATSEMELA…

UNDERSTANDING YOUR CLUB MEMBERS Easy going It is important to know the kind of members you have in your club to establish the kind of stokvel you envisage. For example, Naledi Brothers have been friends for many years. Their stokvel is not too formal and rigid because they know each other very well and they are not worried too much about a member disappearing with their money or issues such as respect. In your club A club should still have rules even though members know each other very well. You shouldn’t let your relationship blind you from doing what is correct. If members are meeting for the first time in the stokvel, it is important for members to be vigilant and make sure they benefit from the club. If you…

HE PLAYS a corrupt ward councillor who thinks he’s the answer to ladies prayers. Hungry for power, there’s no telling what Vukosi Moyo will do on SABC2’s Giyani: Land of Blood. But in real life, actor Fumani Shilubana (39) is a loving family man who’s proud to be friends with his kids. They are his world, he says. Move! catches up with the actor to find out what he’s been up to. LIFE IN TZANEEN He was raised by his mom, Nsatimuni Ndhlovu-Shilubana, and dad, Clifford Shilubana, in Shilubana in Tzaneen. His dad was a school headmaster. “Growing up, he was a typical Xitsonga man and never accepted backchatting from any of us. The words ‘I love you’ never left his lips but he was caring.” His mom was the…

SHE’S worked with the likes of Black Coffee, Tresor and Prince Kaybee and has had a hand in the making of some of SA’s biggest songs right now. Asanda “Msaki” Mvana might be a newcomer in the industry, but she’s already won the hearts of many South Africans. In 2016 the East London-born star released her debut album, Zaneliza: How the Water Moves. On it was her hit song Iimfama Ziyabona – which trended for weeks on social media. Her recent collaboration with House music giant Prince Kaybee, Fetch Your Life, has listeners relooking their lives. We caught up with the 32-year-old mother of two to find out how she is achieving her goals and inspirating others. ‘THERE REALLY IS SOMETHING CONSPIRING FOR OUR GOOD, EVEN IN THE CHAOS’ THE…

IN MANY parts of the world there’s great shame and stigma attached to this skin condition in which pale spots and patches develop all over sufferers’ bodies. Yet Reatile Moalusi doesn’t see vitiligo, an autoimmune disease, as a physical imperfection. He sees it as an opportunity to create beautiful art. Reatile, a photographer from Roodepoort, west of Johannesburg, is making it his mission to debunk myths around the condition. His solo exhibition, Molelo Wa Badimo, recently featured at Johannesburg’s Absa Gallery to rave reviews. RIVETING PHOTOGRAPHY But he’s not in it for personal recognition, Reatile tells Move!. The 36-year-old, who describes himself as a social awareness photographer, says he wants to bring change through riveting photography. From people living with disabilities to those who are in pursuit of physical perfection,…

1 South African rapper Sho Madjozi recently won her . . . BET award? A 1st B 3rd C 5th D 10th 2 Depending on the climate and type, many oranges in the US are actually . . . and are dyed to change their colour? A Red B Orange C Green D Pink 3 Which of these are not technically nuts? A Pecans B Peanuts C Hazelnuts D Chestnuts 4 The . . . are the only human body parts that never stop growing? A Ears and nose B Bones and muscles C Head and heart D Hands and skin 5 What is the technical term for a hashtag? A Ampersand B Pilcrow C Octothorpe D Tilde 6 At age 35, . . . is the youngest-ever cabinet minister…

FRUITY FLAVOUR PLUM TART Try not to use sour fruit – the sweeter the plums, the sweeter the tart will be. PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 1 HR MAKES 6-9 PORTIONS ■ 400g shortcrust pastry ■ 1 egg ■ 125ml (½c) caster sugar, extra for dusting ■ 125ml (½c) ground almonds ■ 15ml (1T) brandy (optional) ■ 30ml (2T) sour cream ■ 800g pitted plums ■ icing sugar for dusting Preheat the oven to 180°C. 1 Line the base and sides of a 25cm loose-based tart pan with pastry. Set aside. 2 In a mixing bowl, combine the egg, caster sugar, almonds, brandy (if using) and cream. Pour the mixture into the pastry case. 3 Top with plums and dust with some extra caster sugar. Bake for 1 hour or until…

‘I'VE BEEN FAKING ORGASMS FOR 23 YEARS. PLEASE HELP ME’ Q HE WANTS A LOT OF SEX My partner loves sex more than I do. I can keep up, though. The only challenge is that the second round takes a long time and I get dry. ANONYMOUS, PIMVILLE A It’s great to acknowledge the difference in libido and that you're continuously working on making sure you are both happy. For some men the first sexual round is short, and thereafter they take longer. This is normal. What's important is that both of you make sure you maintain the lubrication, either by continuously giving attention to your hot spots or by using artificial lubricants. Please make sure you use a water-based lubricant. Safer sex is sexy. Q IS ONLINE SEX CHEATING?…

Karen Moross, a psychologist, mediator and facilitator for training at Famsa in Joburg, says: “I sense this must be overwhelming and even confusing for you. “There are a few issues that need to be addressed. You should have a look at your marriage satisfaction and explore your own sexuality and preferences. Today there are marriages and relationships that allow much more flexible arrangements. However, it's best to have open conversations and dialogue to negotiate this so you don't hurt others. This can be done in a safe and nonjudgmental space, such as your own individual therapy or even couples therapy. “The consequences of acting on your urges will affect you and your family. I urge you to make conscious and rational decisions regarding how you manage your feelings rather than…

Power couple and co-authors Mo and Phindi advise a woman on how to handle her partner’s lack of affection. I've been in a relationship with my man for two years. I love him very deeply and he ensures that I'm well provided for. I feel safe around him because he’s convinced me by his actions that he will never expose me or our relationship to threats. However, my biggest frustration with him is that not only is he the silent type, he's also unaffectionate and distant. I demonstrate my love for him by being affectionate because I'm the cuddly and touchy-feely type, but I don’t feel my love is reciprocated. I sometimes admire other couples when they hold hands in the mall or at church. I can’t even remember the…

■ Show them how small amounts add up over time. If you keep putting coins in a jar, for example, you can save a tidy sum by the end of the year. ■ Encourage them to think of ways to make money. Create interesting ways for them to tackle chores or activities that can boost their savings, such as reading to younger siblings. ■ Delay gratification. South Africans are known for their poor savings culture. If you instil these good habits in your child from a young age, you’re setting them up for a better financial future. ■ Make using money or talking about it the norm. Use everyday situations such as going to a shop to teach them about money. Explain the difference in the prices of a blanket…

FROM my experience as an educator, I've had the privilege of working with young minds. Through it all I've learned many lessons in and outside the classroom, much more than I’ve actually given through my life’s various stages. As I grew in the knowledge of Christ, I now look at children differently and see more of a calling in the profession than a profession in the calling. Like many people, I'm appalled by the blatant and brazen tactics of the devil stealing our children from under our noses. KEEPING CHILDREN SAFE Children have no place of safety anywhere in our society. The world has become a most dangerous place. This is seen in the low literacy rate. Statistics show a decline in our children’s ability to read and write. The…

YOLANDA Nodada’s graduation party was one of a kind. She was born in a small town called Tsolo in St Augustine’s location in the Eastern Cape. She was raised by her aunt Nonesi Dipa who inspired her to get an education. At 16 she fell pregnant but she picked herself up after her son, Phila, was born. After she finished matric, Yolanda headed to Joburg and worked as a helper. One of her employers later assisted her to get an internship at Wesbank where she later got a permanent position. Yolanda then studied part-time towards a diploma in marketing management at the South West Gauteng College in Dobsonville, Soweto. After she finished paying her college fees last year, she graduated recently.…