Table of contents for 6/19/2019 in Move!

SHE desperately wanted a child and she couldn’t believe that her dream of having her own baby would never come true. Especially because when she was younger she had an unplanned pregnancy, which she lost in the early stages. When Molatelo Mainetjie was told she was infertile, she was shattered. And at every family event people were asking her when she was going to have a child, further causing her pain. In the end, the filmmaker decided to make a documentary about it. Read her inspiring story on page 18. We should never judge women on their ability to have or not have children. It is a personal decision and some ladies can’t have kids for medical reasons, as was the case with Molatelo. THE MOVE!TEAM…

A former cop has been sentenced to 15 years for stealing R2 million from his pensioner father’s lotto winnings. Do you think the sentence was fair? Move! readers have their say: He’s going to serve four years and he will be out on parole and then spend the money. – CLARENCE MAWELA Give that dad a bells. It’s very rare that parents stand up against their children. – MAMIKI LORAPO But why so many years? Couldn’t the lawyer get him a lesser and more appropriate sentence? We have murderers and rapists getting away with their bad deeds. I need to study law so that I can be able to understand all this. – NONTUTHUKO NDLOVU He deserves the punishment. How do you steal from your old man? Indeed, the love…

SHE’S a woman of multiple talents: by day TDK Macassette (26) is a musician, by night she’s a businesswoman. She just finished her Public Relations and Communication Management degree and already has a PR company. The Domoroza hitmaker tells Move! this is only the beginning. KEY TO SUCCESS TDK Macassette, real name Thandeka Mkhwanazi, completed matric in 2011. Then she became a dancer and ran her PR company. In 2015, she enrolled for a journalism qualification but did not complete it because “it wasn’t her thing”. The following year TDK enrolled at the Durban University of Technology for a public relations qualification. She graduated in March this year. “Education is important because no one in my family is not educated. There was a time when I thought about quitting but…

MUSIC and beer lovers experienced a night of fun in the heart of Braamfontein. ‘Braam’, as it is commonly known, is one of the popular Joburg locations that epitomises pop culture, vibrancy and youthfulness. It was only fitting for BUDX Labs Johannesburg – an electronic music lab that brings artists, producers, DJs and fans together for an awesome brand experience – to host an event there. Shine Studios was turned into a music venue that could rival any dance music residency. Fan were excited to hear from DJ Zinhle and DJ Claude Baloyi. The party provided a space for members of the electronic music scene to engage with each other in a relaxed setting with free-flowing Buds while having an awesome time!…

There are still many false stories going around about HIV and Aids. HIV specialist Dr Moeketsi Mathe says everyone who has sex needs to get tested at least twice a year. These are some myths and facts about HIV: ■ HIV is a death sentence With treatment and a healthy lifestyle, you can live a long life. ■ HIV is a gay disease Anyone of any age who has unprotected sex is at risk of contracting the disease. ■ You can get HIV just by being around HIV positive people HIV cannot be spread through sweat, saliva or tears nor through contact that is not sexual. You can’t catch it like a cold or flu. ■ You cannot spread HIV as long as you are on treatment Antiretroviral drugs can…

LITTLE SIPHO “Hey, Mom,” little Sipho asks, “Can you give me R20?” “Certainly not.” “If you do,” he goes on, “I’ll tell you what Dad said to the maid when you were at the hairdresser.” His mother’s ears perk up and, grabbing her purse, she hands over the money. “Well? What did he say?” “He said, ‘Hey, Maria, please make sure I’ve got clean socks for tomorrow.’ ” INCENTIVE Government announced that it’s giving incentives to couples with at least five children. Upon hearing this Jabu, who has four children, tells his wife that he’s going to fetch another child he’d had with another woman. Upon returning he’s surprised to see only two children.“Where are my other children?”he asks his wife. “You’re not the only one who heard that announcement,”she…

Q I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO USE TO REMOVE MY MAKEUP. PLEASE HELP? A First identify your skin type. Is it oily, combination or dry? If you have dry skin use cleansing oil, micellar water or a cream face wash – then moisturise. If you have combination skin, use micellar water, a foaming face wash or gentle makeup removing wipes. For oily skin, use a gel cleanser with salicylic acid, micellar water or makeup removing wipes. If your skin feels tacky after using any makeup removing product, wash it afterwards and moisturise. Always moisturise your skin after using wipes.…

‘WE'VE JUST LEARNT THE PRIEST WHO MARRIED US IS NOT A MARRIAGE OFFICER’ Q CAN I DRIVE IN SA WITH A FOREIGN LICENCE? I'm a Nigerian citizen and when I came to South Africa I had a driver's licence that I obtained in Nigeria. Does the law allow me to drive with my Nigerian licence in South Africa or am I forced to get a South African one? I've not been driving for a long time but I've just obtained a permanent job here after having been granted permanent residency and I want to buy a car now. ANONYMOUS, TEMBA A Foreign citizens are not allowed to drive using their foreign driver's licence. You need to convert your Nigerian driver’s licence to a South African one. A foreign driver’s licence…

‘MY HUSBAND DIED 10 YEARS AGO BUT I’M NOT SURE IF MY CHILDREN WILL ACCEPT MY NEW MAN’ Q HE’S LOST MY TRUST BY SLEEPING AROUND I'm a woman involved with a man. We're happy but I don’t trust him. He’s always receiving lots of calls from other men and women. I checked his phone and saw a message where he told his friend that he'd had sex with three other men. When I confronted him, he confessed. How can I trust this person? ANONYMOUS, CAPE TOWN A Trust is one of the requirements if a couple wants to be happy in their relationship. You confronted your man and he confessed. What you do after you know the truth is entirely up to you. If you believe this relationship has…

Anyone with breast tissue, including men, can get breast cancer but it’s far more common in women. These are the risk factors: ■ Age Most women diagnosed with breast cancer are over 50. ■ Genes Women who have inherited genetic changes are at higher risk of breast and ovarian cancer. ■ Family history Your risk is higher if a close family member had breast or ovarian cancer. ■ Medical history Women who have received high-dose chemotherapy or who have had radiation therapy to the chest before age 30 are at an increased risk. ■ Dense breast tissue can be six times more likely to develop cancer. ■ Reproductive history Menstrual periods before age 12 and starting menopause after age 55 expose women to hormones longer, raising their risk of getting…

I love my man and we've been seeing each other for four years. We still go on dates and travel together as a couple but we're no longer intimate and it sometimes feels like we're just friends. I know men love their sex and for my partner, at 39 years old, to suddenly have a change in his sexual appetite worries me. If we can go a month without sex, I worry that someone is possibly satisfying him elsewhere. I'm really confused and don’t know how to tackle this whole thing. I love him and I would hate for things to become messy because of our sex life. I also don't want him to get joy from elsewhere because there are diseases out there. How do I address the issue…

‘THE BENEFITS, IF DEVICES ARE USED APPROPRIATELY, CAN BE GREAT’ ■ Create a family plan. Make sure there’s a balance of face-to-face interaction, family time, outdoor activities, exercise, unplugged downtime and sleep. ■ Treat media as you would any other area in your children’s life. Know their friends both online and off, know what platforms and apps they’re using, what sites they’re visiting and what they’re doing online. ■ Screen time shouldn’t always be alone time. Watch something with them, play a game or do research together. ■ Create tech-free zones. Keep mealtimes, family and social gatherings and kids’ bedrooms screen-free. Don’t have the TV on in the background. Keep devices outside bedrooms at night to avoid the temptation to use them. ■ Don’t use technology to keep kids calm…

APART from the Kingdom of God, Jesus talks more about money than anything else in the Bible. The 39 parables of Jesus are concerned with how to handle wealth and possessions, accountability and stewardship. Money far exceeds any other discussions. Often when we start to talk about money, people start to frown. But we should all be more open about money as it influences all our lives, whether we want to believe it or not. THE PURPOSE OF MONEY We've seen many people who've had a lot of money and yet they didn't have what money seemed to promise – health, prosperity and every good thing. It seemed like these things still eluded them. Maybe this is why Jesus taught us very specifically about placing God first. So, what is…

SINGLE GUY LOOKING I’m a 40-year-old man from Soweto but currently staying in the Free State. I’m single and looking for someone I can fall in love with. She must be between the ages of 36 and 45 and be ready to start a family. If interested, please call me on: 079 772 9749 LET’S BE FRIENDS I’m a 25-year-old woman and I’m looking for friends in my age group from around Gauteng. If interested, please WhatsApp me on: 065 959 5352 SERIOUS LADY WHO’S READY TO SETTLE DOWN My name is Prince and I’m from Pretoria. I’m 26 years old and am looking for a serious lady to settle down with. She must also be from around Pretoria. She must be between the ages of 19 and 25. If…

Every day is a new day and a blessing to us. It is not by choice that we wake up every day but by the power and grace of God. We have things that our hearts desire but only God can provide. We want the good things, the good life but where do we put God in all those things we want? God knows all and you will think that your life is not moving forward and you might be thinking of giving up. Please put God first and let him show you he is the unchangeable God and a miracle worker. Let him take control. He will take you from darkness to lightness. He is forever there. MOLOKO MANTHATA, MOHODI SEKAKENG…

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A good stokvel not only plans ahead but has goals. Dirisanang Ladies Club are women with a plan, and one of their plans include growing their membership. One way they believe they can achieve the goal is by behaving in a respectable and honourable manner in public, which would make it easy for members to refer other people to join the club. Marketing expert Kabelo Ngobese says it is important to understand and note what growth means for your stokvel. Does growth for your stokvel merely mean an increase in membership or growth in contributions and profits? “A bit of research and financial consulting could take your stokvel from saving and earning minimal interests to earning more on your money through investment,”he says. “What a joy it would be if…

RISE AND SHINE WITH SATISKIN Every sunrise brings a new day. Prepare yourself for a positive start to your morning with indulgent Satiskin shower gels. PH-balanced, enriched with vitamins E and A and glycerine, Satiskin shower gels leave your skin feeling satin soft, while indulgent fragrances help prepare you for your day. Available in a range of 1-litre and 400ml sizes, with scents for every mood. TREAT IT NATURALLY Agera Wonder Salve Traditional Herbal Cream is a natural remedy that has anti-inflammatory, antioxidant and antifungal properties. It helps relieve pain, swelling and inflammation associated with arthritis, gout and muscle pain. It is also helps treat skin conditions like eczema, sunburn, insect bites, psoriasis and acne marks. Visit agerahealth.co.za or ask your pharmacist for more info. ALL-IN-ONE CLEANER No more fussing…

IT’S a statistic that would stop anyone in their tracks: 5,3 million South Africans under the age of 50 are HIV-positive with 1,4 million in KwaZulu-Natal and nearly half a million in Johannesburg. These figures, recently published in the science journal Nature, caused quite a stir because South Africa was one of the worst in the 46 African countries in the study, with Nigeria, Zimbabwe and Kenya coming in much lower than SA. The study showed that one in every five South Africans between the ages of 15 and 19 were infected with the virus and there has been a 5% increase in the scourge since 2000. But these numbers are nothing to panic about, experts say. The fact that there are so many people in Mzansi who are HIV-positive…

SHE’S a grown woman who loves wearing diapers. University student Camille Lola (21) from Saxon, Switzerland couldn’t keep food down as a child without having diarrhoea, so she always had “accidents” throughout high school. Isolated with no friends, she decided to relive her childhood in adult baby nappies. She spends each night at home living as a three-year-old, complete with a dummy and diaper. LIVING IN NAPPIES She experienced a lonely childhood, so Camille wanted to “correct” it by reliving it, but as an adult. While her close friends and family have accepted her hobby, her extended family have called her crazy and said she needs to stop. “When I hit puberty I became more interested in reliving my childhood, wearing nappies, playing with toys and so on.” She just…

WIDE LEG TIP Whether you’re petite, tall or curvy, wide leg pants create a beautiful shape and lengthen legs when worn with heels. CROP TIP Crop pants can be a bit tricky to wear. If you pair them with flats, make sure you choose a skinny fit that flatters your body shape. Wide leg crop pants are best with heels. PRINTED TIP When choosing pants with bold prints, stick to solid colours for the rest of your outfit. If you’re more daring and want to try print on print, make sure you stick to a similar colour palette and keep your accessories minimal. FAUX LEATHER TIP Faux leather pants add an edge to any outfit. You can dress them down with sneakers for a more casual look or add heels…

PIZZA MAKES: 4 MEDIUM-SIZE PIZZAS PREPARATION: 10-15 MIN COOKING: 15-17 MIN BASE ■ 1kg shop-bought bread dough ■ 200g cauliflower ■ 125ml (½c) grated mozzarella cheese ■ 125ml (½c) grated cheddar cheese TOMATO SAUCE ■ 60ml (¼c) tomato sauce ■ 60ml (¼c) chutney TOPPINGS ■ 125ml (½c) grated mozzarella cheese ■ 1 small onion, chopped ■ 125ml (½c) frozen peas ■ 125ml (½c) frozen corn ■ 1 each red and yellow pepper, diced ■ 200g diced bacon, fried ■ 125ml (½c) grated cheddar cheese Preheat the oven to 200°C. Lightly dust four large baking sheets with flour. 1 BASE Dust the work surface with flour. Divide the dough into four equal parts. Roll out each piece to the size of a dinner plate and put on the baking trays. 2…

THEY are dangerous and exude power. They’re irresistible to women and men envy them. They are David Genaro, Jack Mabaso and Judas Ngwenya, the big guns of TV. They’re men who fight dirty and hard for everything they want. Move! looks at some of the bad boys of SA soapies. ISIBAYA Menzi Ngubane stars as Judas on Mzansi Magic’s Isibaya. Judas is an untouchable former taxi boss. He runs a shisa nyama business and sells drugs on the side. Essentially he’s a thug and his wife and son are involved in the business too. He and his wife, Beauty (Thuli Thabethe), recently walked in on his son’s girlfriend dying from a drug overdose, and he tried to help her. His wife wouldn’t let him and he gave in to her,…

‘I’M A HOUSEHUSBAND AND MY WIFE, WHO IS THE BREADWINNER, IS VERY ABUSIVE’ Q HE HITS ME DURING SEX My partner spanks me during sex. I'm not sure about this – it makes me uncomfortable. ANONYMOUS, MIDRAND A Everything to do with your sex life should be discussed before being implemented. Please go back to the drawing board and share your frustration with your man. If you do agree on a practice then you can introduce it gradually, with rules in place. If something new is introduced with respect and mutual benefit, it should be fun for you both. Q I WANT TO TIGHTEN MY VAGINAL MUSCLE I've been using African fruit to tighten my vaginal muscle. I get it from our local traditional shop. I'm supposed to put it…

Life coach Thembi Hama says,“I’m sorry that at a time when you need sympathy, compassion and care, your man focuses on your physique. This was something you didn't plan or wish for – it was an illness that was beyond your control. For it to be used against you to deny you intimacy is sad. What's even more cruel is the fact that he now watches pornography and masturbates in front of you. “If the terms of the relationship are no longer being met (big bum and big stomach), it appears to me that you have no other choice but to part ways. Trying to squeeze yourself into his ideal will not help you. Even if you miraculously wake up with your old body, it sets a bad precedence for…

LIZIWE THOBOZA What does happily in love mean to you? Because sex should also be part of what makes you happy in your relationship. Maybe your partner has a medical condition that he's afraid to disclose to you. Find help, as there’s no happily in love here. PRUDENCE MTHEMBU Maybe he’s no longer attracted to women. Maybe he’s depressed about something or he gets exhausted. The best way to find out the truth is to sit down with him and tell him how you feel. This may help him open up to you. SIMPSON MAANDA Sex with one person for a long time may be tiring. You need to spice up your love life and make it more unpredictable. Make time to talk about how you can improve your sexual…

SHE never considered a career in gospel music. But when the talented Hle Ntombela Mthethwa (26) hits the stage, she leads such a magnetic and powerful worship that it’s hard to imagine her doing anything else. South Africans got to experience her sultry voice and impressive range when she joined the Joyous Celebration choir in 2012. It wasn’t her life plan to sing for her supper, it’s all God’s work, she tells Move!. SURRENDERING TO GOD’S PLAN Hle grew up in a very spiritual home in Newcastle, KwaZulu-Natal. Her father is Bishop Sipho Ntombela of Potters House Family Church. She was a worshipper at church and started her career as a backing vocalist for songbird Ntokozo Mbambo. But becoming a full-on gospel artist wasn’t what she aspired to be until…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

Over-excessive alcohol indulgence and consumption is the fastest way to self-destruction. Alcohol is a starter drug with severe and dire consequences often leading and introducing people to hardcore drugs and forcing people to become addicts once hooked. When we don’t meet our expectations, dreams, goals and endeavours, we feel inadequate, useless, inferior, pathetic, failures and purposeless. Without thinking twice, we suddenly jump into the alcohol bandwagon hoping and thinking this move will be a coping mechanism. Alcohol is not a bath soap or dish washing detergent that can be used to remove and wash away our problems. Marriages have crumbled and steady relationships have collapsed and ruined. Families have also been broken and torn apart. All these happen simply because of alcohol and drug abuse. MCDIVETT KHUMBULANI TSHEHLA, HALFWAY HOUSE…

GIVE him a fake sword, a cape and a historic wig and he’ll rock it. Eastern Cape-born bass baritone Musa Ngqungwana’s voice is so versatile and his style so flexible he can pull off any role that comes his way. And the opera singer is wowing international audiences in challenging theatre productions, singing effortlessly in Italian, French, German, English – and even a bit of Russian. Musa, who was raised in Port Elizabeth and studied opera in Cape Town, was supposed to be a doctor or an engineer. Instead he’s singing for his supper. IN THE BEGINNING We catch up with him when he comes back to his homeland for the launch of his book, Odyssey of an African Opera Singer. The book started off as a form of therapy…

WOMEN play an important role in our society but the strength of women is hardly celebrated. Join Move! for a day of empowerment as you get information on how to celebrate your efforts at work, home, in society and in your stokvel. Our speakers will influence you to turn your life around and start appreciating all the things, no matter how small. The Move! Lifestyle event is a not-to-be missed event where we bring various experts to cover various topics like beauty, finances and running your stokvel like a 21st century organisation. The event will also show you how you can bring your goals to life. THE LINE-UP Join your Move! stokvel ambassador Nonzwakazi Cekete as your host. ■ Nedbank’s strategic relationship and customer education manager, Gert Adams, will talk…

WHEN a successful, white-collar professional falls on hard times, his wife leaves him, taking along their only child. After she bans him from seeing his daughter, the desperate dad takes matters into his own hands: kidnapping the little girl from school. They skip town in a bus, but on the way to starting their new life in a new city all hell breaks loose and he finds himself in a high-stakes hostage situation. This spellbinding plot could be the product of Hollywood’s top talent but this film was proudly created right here in Mzansi. Billed as a thriller about desperation and retaliation, Losing Lerato is an honest, raw story highlighting the pertinent issue of papgeld, Kagiso Modupe says. A STAR IS BORN The popular actor stars in and directs the…

‘I GUESS EVERYONENEEDS TO GO THROUGH A DRY SPELL IN THEIR LIVES TO STRENGTHEN THEIRFAITH’ SHE’S everywhere you look these days – turn on a channel and you’ll see her gorgeous face. Yet when Winnie Ntshaba and her 15 colleagues were infamously sacked from Generations in 2014 for going on strike and demanding a salary increase, she wasn’t sure she would work on TV again. But five years is a long time in showbiz – and she’s once again one of the most sought-after actresses in Mzansi. MAKING WAVES Winnie (43) is making waves in Mzansi Magic show Isithembiso, in which she plays an ex-con who’s been released from jail after serving a 20-year sentence for murder. The actress is also casting a spell on audiences as an evil witch…

“It’s a choice to sit and not know your status, and it’s also a choice to be tested, to know your status and then to not take treatment,” Dr Moeketsi Mathe points out. Dr Mathe says only 1% of new infections are through child-to-mother, injury and accident. About 99% of new infections are through sex. The most effective way to prevent new infections is to: abstain, be faithful and use condoms. He adds that being faithful to your partner does not guarantee they’ll be faithful in return: everyone must take charge of their own health. ■ Mother-to-child infection The transmission of HIV from an HIV-positive mother to her child during pregnancy, labour, delivery or breastfeeding can be greatly reduced with antiretroviral drugs the for mother and child. Expectant mothers must…

1 Media personality Boity Thulo recently visited ... and watched the Grand Prix from the deck of a super yacht? A Melbourne B Mexico City C Monaco D Barcelona 2 The French stew bouillabaisse is made of ... and veggie? A Fish B Beef C Chicken D Game 3 Who was not a founding member of the ANC? A Sol Plaatje B Oliver Tambo C Saul Msane D John Dube 4 Vuyani Jarana recently became the ... CEO to quit SAA in six years? A Fourth B Eighth C Tenth D Sixth 5 The word “sinister” meant ... in Latin? A Good B Dark C Evil D Left 6 The Great Plague killed about ... people worldwide? A 10-30 million B 45-60 million C 75-200 million D 400 million 7…

Sheets Usually sold in individual sachets, these single-use masks come in various forms, such as cotton, foil and gel. There’s no need to rinse your face afterwards. Simply massage the remaining product into your skin. ANTI-AGEING Cettua Anti-Aging Facial Mask R35,95 This mask contains skin-friendly antioxidants and minerals found in seaweed, which can plump up the skin, add radiance and reduce signs of ageing. This soft cotton sheet is saturated with beneficial ingredients that are released into the skin upon application. RESTORING Skin Republic Double Action Hyaluronic Acid + Collagen Face Mask Sheet R49 What sets this mask apart is it includes a microdermabrasion and peel that you use before your mask. The peel exfoliates and cleanses the skin, preparing it to absorb the mask’s ingredients. It contains hyaluronic acid,…

OFTEN when we go to the clinic, we hear the terms CD4 count and viral load being thrown around. But do we really understand what they mean and how they relate to our condition? It can be confusing trying to decode all the terminology when you get the results of your blood tests. But knowing what CD4 count and viral load mean can make it easier for you to navigate your the journey with HIV. In addition, it helps you to make informed decisions that will enable you to live a healthy life with the virus for many years. IMMUNE SYSTEM Our bodies are protected by the immune system against different illnesses. The immune system acts as a defence mechanism to fight off any bacteria, germs and viruses. It does…

GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUN It’s a time where you may be lucky in love, which, if single, could mean the end of a footloose and fancy-free life. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 6, 19, 21, 33, 41, 42 CANCER 21 JUN – 21 JUL It’s a good time to focus on your own needs, whether in terms of your professional ambitions, physical comforts or personal wishes. Since it’s a week to look towards the future, you may want to take some time to set intentions and formulate goals for the year ahead. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 4, 22, 32, 34, 36, 39 LEO 22 JUL – 22 AUG Some soul-searching can be an enriching thing as it could shed light on behaviourial patterns and habits that inhibit your personal growth. YOUR…

A PERSON goes through a number of life changes over the years, and their body isn’t spared. You probably don’t look like you did 10 years ago, or before you had kids. Or you might have been through a traumatic experience that makes you look at your body and sex differently. UNDERSTAND YOUR NEW BODY You might dread intimacy because you’ve allowed changes in your life to influence how you look at yourself. It’s normal, experts say. Confidence and comfort are key to intimacy. Hormones fluctuate and change a lot during pregnancy, says Dr Lerato Masemola, a general practitioner in Johannesburg. "It sometimes takes a while for the hormones to settle and go back to normal," she says. "And sometimes they may not, and a woman is left feeling like…

WHEN former actress Meghan Markle said “I will” to her prince the two billion people watching worldwide breathed a dreamy sigh. There it was, right in front of our eyes: love. As royal wedding fever swept the world last year it was easy to forget Meghan had been there, done that before – not at a wedding like this, of course, complete with pomp and pageantry spiced up with American passion from the pulpit and a gospel choir in full cry. But at a wedding nevertheless. Her 2011 marriage – to Los Angeles production manager Trevor Engelson – lasted just two years and Meghan was single for three years before falling for Prince Harry of Britain. Enough time, experts say, to have processed what had happened and – hopefully –…

LIKE many little girls she’s always loved fairy-tale princesses and dressing up in flowing gowns similar to those worn by the heroines she’s admired in books and on screen. Yet Enhle Gebashe’s fascination went deeper than just playing dress-up. She’d stare at the garments worn by the princesses and think about how she could recreate them – preferably with a dash of African print that would really make them pop. And so the 10 year old started sketching her version of African-inspired outfits that would make every little girl feel like a princess – which is how her business came about. FIT FOR A PRINCESS The young designer now runs Enhle Babes Couture, a children’s brand specialising in glamorous African print outfits. Last October her mom, Desiree (33), started a…

1 What do you think are the signs you show that make those around you know you’re losing your temper? A They wouldn’t know, as you never outwardly show your anger. B Your raised voice gives you away. C You scatter them by going into a violent and destructive rage. 2 How do you handle a serious disagreement with someone? A You quietly but firmly put across your point of view. B You copy the argumentative style of the other person in the dispute. C By shouting incessantly, you don’t allow the other person to speak. 3 If you were simply concentrating on something very important when your partner interrupts your train of thought, how would you respond? A Calmly and in an even-tempered way. B Sharply, making sure your…

The 5th Uhuru Fringe Festival continued to celebrate South African creativity. The four-day art, design, film and music festival was held at the Wushwini Pan African Centre, KwaNgcolosi in Durban. Uzalo and Lockdown actress-cum-singer, Dawn Thandeka King; a multi-award winning, Ukhozi FM news anchor-cum-poet, Bongani Mavuso and internationally-acclaimed poet, Nompilo Mwelase, left the audience asking for more during their performances. The event was also graced by the presence of the chairperson of KwaZulu-Natal House of Traditional Leaders, Inkosi Bhekisisa Bhengu of KwaNgcolosi tribe, eHostela actor Bheki Mqadi of Sarafina fame and Uzalo cast member-cum-poetess, Nozipho Mdletshe.…

I AM a young man with hopes of getting married and having children one day. I hope to learn to love my family, spend a lot of time with them and do my best to make sure that I reprimand my children in a way that will build them. This is because while I was growing up, my father used to beat me up every time I made a mistake. DEMOTIVATED He would hit me with fists, a sjambok and anything he could find. Not that I didn’t want to be disciplined, but I felt like it would’ve been much better if he warned me to never make the same mistake again. He would also call me names like stupid, useless or other derogatory terms in front of my friends.…