Table of contents for 6/26/2019 in Move!

LADIES, have you got your tickets for our next lifestyle event, which will be held in Polokwane? If you haven’t yet, you need to book now because tickets are selling like hotcakes and you really don’t want to be the one who misses out on this day of inspiration! We have a wonderful line-up of expert speakers who will help you to improve all aspects of your life. There will be advice on finance, fashion, beauty, funeral plans, religion, and business that will empower you to make better decisions in your life. This event will help you to reach your life goals and, of course, it is an opportunity to mingle with other women. You’ll be treated to lunch and get a great goodie bag, so head to Computicket now…

BLACK Radiance aims to empower and inspire women of colour through beauty. We celebrate the inner strength of today’s women and understand the cosmetic needs of darker-toned complexions. We offer prestigious, high-quality and affordably priced cosmetics with vivid lip and eye colour, plus exclusively formulated cosmetics to meet your skin type’s distinct needs. Follow us on Facebook: Black Radiance South Africa or Instagram: @blackradiance_sa…

AN EQUALLY BENEFICIAL STOKVEL Members of Siyasizana Ladies Club who have relatives in Mpumalanga seem to be the ones who suffer the most during funeral planning. Members do not arrive on time due to the distance of travelling, which also means they cannot help with the catering, leaving it to neighbours, friends and the mourning family members. WHAT TO CONSIDER Unfortunately members cannot miss work to attend a funeral in another province. However, those who are off work on the Friday or knock off early could travel and represent the club at the funeral. It may be better to have a few members attend the funeral and help with arrangements as opposed to all members attending but not helping out because they arrived late. The club could also hire a…

IT’S early morning and it seems to be business as usual at the Modderspruit taxi rank in North West. Crowds of passengers wait their turn to get on the taxis and drivers rev their engines and honk their hooters, eager to set off with their loaded-up minibuses. But there’s something more than the usual midweek bustle in the air – the tension is almost palpable as drivers keep a beady eye on the young men smoking on the fringes of the rank. Here violence can break out as abruptly as a thunderstorm in summer, yet it isn’t rival drivers or innocent commuters who are at risk in this case. It’s the youth who loiter in the area – the nyaope smokers who have become targets for taxi drivers hellbent on…

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WE often hear concerned parents, lovers and friends complaining about their loved ones being reluctant to go for an HIV test, refusing to take medication or destroying their lives with harmful habits. This shows that there are people out there who are genuinely caring and compassionate in your life. These are angels and saints we are blessed with to make the burden of life easier to carry. They are the embodiment of Ubuntu. The frustration of those that care proves that some of us shut out people who want to be part of our HIV journey. Shortly after being diagnosed with HIV, I felt like an outcast. I remember not opening my door to friends who were worried about my aloofness. HIV was telling me I was different and had…

CANCER 21 JUN – 21 JUL Make money work for you, whether by opening a savings plan or investing. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 16, 22, 25, 35, 41, 51 LEO 22 JUL – 22 AUG You can succeed if you want to motivate or persuade others. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 13, 21, 32, 44, 40 VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEP You may want to arrange a coffee date with friends, organise an outing or catch up with your bestie. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 6, 9, 17, 29, 39, 50 LIBRA 23 SEP – 22 OCT It’s a week for setting goals and achieving them, don't procrastinate. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 3, 19, 32, 36, 51, 52 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV It’s a week to pour energy and passion into an…

Jennifer Papers, counselling social worker at the Family Life Centre in Alexandra, says: “The question is whether the favour you did for your husband was really about him or your own desires? Should the lies come to light, do you feel your husband will be appreciative of the favour? “In light of your question of whether or not you should request another favour from your lover, it is always a good feeling when we achieve our goals and we know we worked hard for it. My concern here is whether the promotion you got for your husband and wanting a job for yourself is something you will have to pay for in sexual favours for the rest of your life. “Are you comfortable with having an arrangement where your body…

My husband and I have been married for six years. The first three years of our marriage, and the four we dated before our wedding, were really good. He was the most caring and sensitive man to my needs. But the past three years have been a nightmare. He’s no longer interested in going out with me, leaves on weekends with his friends for drinks only to return in the early hours of the morning, and he doesn’t care what I think anymore. I've developed a social life of my own that’s independent of him, and I spend most of my time with our two children. I’m really at my wits’ end and in a process of deciding whether it’s a good idea to remain in this marriage or not.…

If you have a child who’s anxious about school, there are things you can do to prepare them emotionally. JUST LISTEN  “Listen to their fears and concerns,” says Elretha Bartlett, a counselling psychologist at Meaningful Minds Psychologists in Johannesburg. “For example, you can say, ‘I understand you’re worried that maths is going to be difficult this term. It’s normal to feel that way at the start of a new term’.” HAVE ONE-ON-ONE TIME Spend quality time with your child in the days leading up to school starting, Elretha advises. “Ask your child what you could do to help them feel better. Sometimes sharing some of your school memories can reassure them.” TRY TO EXUDE POSITIVITY You may be so worried about your child that you feel overwhelmed yourself. Or maybe…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

IT’S very rare to find people who really understand the danger of depression and realise how it can affect and tear families apart. People commit suicide because they live a double life. During the day, they are all bubbly and smile at everyone and show no signs of stress or suffering. While at night they cry themselves to sleep and think of all the ways to end their lives. Let’s break the silence and appreciate life and embrace all that comes with it. MOLOKO MANTHATA, MOHODI SEKAKENG…

Sheryl Rahme, co-owner of Changes Treatment Centres, has more than 20 years’experience working with people affected by addiction. Drug addiction is“out of control”in parts of South Africa, she admits, but violence is never the answer. “It’s time government gets involved by opening treatment centres to help treat this illness.” Education is the first step in addressing addiction. “Families and the public need to be educated about the disease of addiction and healthy ways to help. Sheryl adds that while rehab can help an addict,“it isn’t a cure or a quick fix.” Treatment can include medication, emotional support, group therapy, individual therapy and 12-step support groups like Narcotics Anonymous.…

A GENIUS toddler has been caught on camera doing algebra, fractions and reciting pi. Aiden Blasian (3), from Washington DC in America, can easily add together numbers of more than 10 digits, as well as play around with algebraic equations. The adorable boy spends hours at his chalkboard every day, learning increasingly harder maths operations with the help of his mom, Cynthia Adinig (34). HOW IT STARTED Cynthia says Aiden’s interest in maths and science started in a spontaneous way briefly after he learnt to write at age two. Cynthia, a graphic designer, said: “In my family we like maths and sometimes we do maths problems together. “One day my dad sent me a problem, Aiden saw the notes and started solving it. We started giving him problem after problem…

GET warm this winter with our hearty meals full of nutrients that are packed with flavour. Enjoy comfort food at its finest with Harvestime and an assortment of products to choose from. What’s more? The recipes are easy to make! Simply stock up on freezer essentials that are frozen at their freshest to make preparing weeknight dinners a breeze. CREAMY HAKE CURRY WITH HARVESTIME MIXED VEGETABLES AND PASTA PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 40 MIN ■ 300g hake fillets ■ Salt and pepper to taste ■ 5ml (1t) cayenne pepper ■ 30ml (2T) sunflower oil ■ 2 red chillies, finely sliced ■ 15ml (1T) curry paste ■ 2 x vegetable stock cubes ■ 500ml (2c) hot water ■ 500ml (2c) cream ■ 100g spaghetti, cooked ■ Zest and juice of 1…

‘MY MOTHER WANTS TO HAVE MY FATHER DECLARED DEAD AND HOLD A FUNERAL’ Q CAN OUR FATHER BE DECLARED DEAD? How can I go about having someone declared dead? We last saw our father in 1987 and we've never heard anything from him. My mother now wants to have him declared dead and hold a funeral. ANONYMOUS, PORT ELIZABETH A You need to bring a high court application and prove to the court that your father has been missing for a long period. You need to show that you have attempted to locate his whereabouts and irrespective of this, his whereabouts cannot be located. The court will consider all the relevant facts, such as the age of the missing person, their state of health and mind, the period of absence…

‘HE TELLS ME I DON'T KNOW HOW TO BE A WIFE AND HE'S NEVER SATISFIED WITH ANYTHING I DO’ Q MY MOTHER-IN-LAW INTERFERES TOO MUCH I've been married to my wife for four years. In the beginning I used to think she was lucky to have a mother who supported and loved her the way her mother does. However, lately this is becoming a problem because her mother now feels like a third party in our marriage. Sometimes my wife wants to pass things by her before we make decisions. How do I tell her to stay out of our marriage without hurting my wife? ANONYMOUS, MIDRAND A It's clear your mother-in-law and your wife have a strong bond and still feel connected to each other and this is a…

FOR HER ■ Position yourself – position is important because you have to be comfortable. ■ Use your mouth as a prop – keep your mouth at the ready with a lot of saliva in it. ■ Breathe – breathe through your nose. ■ Communicate, communicate and communicate some more – communicating the purpose of the act is important (orgasm vs foreplay) as this can decrease frustration. ■ Don’t forget to move – changes in speed and pressure of movements will increase sensation and arousal. FOR HIM ■ Stay on it – remember that it takes time for a woman to reach a heightened state of pleasure. ■ Get the pace right – slower and gentler are the keywords to increase sensation and arousal. ■ Position – the position of…

LIZIWE THOBOZA You are suffering, dear, so why are you asking us? It’s abuse – what more do you want him to do? He doesn't want you anymore. Three years is too long. Please, you’re not the first, so be strong and leave that coward. DESIREE REFILOE SEKGOLOANA Three years is a long time, child ... You should have left long ago ... Clearly what he’s not doing with you he’s doing with someone else ... Delete yourself from the equation, honey. OFENTSE TSWAI You’re in that marriage alone. Divorce him and start afresh because life is too short. Happiness is waiting for you out there.…

A baby was recently abducted from Chris Hani Baragwanath Academic Hospital in Soweto and later found by police. What can be done to prevent such incidents from happening in future? Move! readers have their say. The authorities must start from the hospital gates to beef up security and go inside the wards to install the latest technology like the best CCTV cameras that will monitor every movement. – NAZEEM GROOTBOOM Security must be tightened and surveillance cameras must be installed. Strict security measures must be enforced at the exits. The law must take its course. – DANNY MOREO It might be a costly exercise but the authorities must put electronic tags on new-born babies to remotely monitor them. These should alert officials if these babies move beyond a certain perimeter.…

HE was known as a flamboyant social butterfly and is no stranger to the spotlight. There were the many tabloid headlines and an alleged fraud scandal that tainted his name after he was accused of pocketing R1 million of funding donated to Bara TV. So when he took a break from the limelight to deal with personal and marital problems with his wife, Nomxolisi Mji, Dr Love, real name Mveleli Gqwede (51), had a reputation for being controversial. Now he’s made a comeback as one of the hosts of SA’s new cheating show, Uyajola 9/9. He’s no stranger to cheating shows, having had a radio show in 2008, Cheaters, on Soweto’s community radio station and Jozi FM. He was also the TV host of Dr Love on Call – a…

1 Singer Nichume recently took her own life after suffering from ...? A Headaches B Depression C Cancer D Diabetes 2 Which system in the human body is responsible for breathing? A Endocrine B Digestive C Respiratory D Circulatory 3 Which of these big cats is not native to Africa? A Lion BTiger C Leopard D Cheetah 4 How many oxygen atoms are in a water molecule? A 1 B 2 C 3 D 4 5 Mangosuthu Buthelezi is set to step down as leader of the IFP after . . . years at the helm? A 12 B 20 C 32 D 44 6 Which ocean lies to the east of China? A Atlantic B Arctic C Pacific D Indian 7 Which European country banned work emails after office…

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CREAMY ONION TARTLETS WITH HERB DRIZZLE Enjoy these as a light meal or as a side dish with a main meal. SERVES: 4 AS A LIGHT MEAL AND 6-8 AS A SIDE DISH PREPARATION: 20 MIN BAKING: 25-30 MIN ■ 1 roll (400g) puff pastry FILLING ■ 3 onions, sliced ■ 6 garlic cloves, crushed ■ 60ml (¼c) mayonnaise ■ 60ml (¼c) full-cream plain yoghurt ■ 100g cheddar cheese, grated ■ Salt and freshly ground pepper HERB DRIZZLE ■ Handful of each fresh parsley and coriander, chopped ■ Juice and grated zest of 1 lemon ■ 45ml (3T) olive oil Preheat the oven to 180°C. Line a large baking sheet with baking paper and grease with nonstick spray. 1 Roll out the pastry on a floured surface. Cut the pastry…

IF you have something weighing on your mind and need help unloading it, then Nyan’Nyan (The Truth in isiXhosa) is definitely the show for you. The SABC1 reality show invites guests into their studio truck so they can confess secrets that are affecting their relationships. LONGEVITY Out of all the relationship shows Mzansi TV airs, Nyan’Nyan stands uncontested when it comes to consistency and longevity. Its first episode aired in 2014 and it is in its sixth season, and still going strong. Relationship issues that couples struggle with on the show know no bounds. These problems could stem from a boyfriend not wanting to put his girlfriend’s image as his WhatsApp profile picture, him not coming home or cheating with her best friend or neighbour. In other instances, the problems…

‘WE'VE NOT HAD SEX FOR FOUR YEARS NOW. IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE A LIFELONG SEXLESS MARRIAGE?’ Q MY BOSS USED ME I slept with my boss when he promised me a promotion, but now he’s gone quiet. I feel sad and used. This is affecting my sex life as I'm feeling guilty. ANONYMOUS, BLOEMFONTEIN A Having sex for reasons other than pleasure can leave you empty and in turmoil. In your case, it might also make it difficult for you to go to work. Clearly there is a part of you that’s been affected negatively by your sexual decisions, and this has made you feel abused. To restore yourself and correct your sexual journey, I suggest you urgently see a psychologist. Q A SEXLESS MARRIAGE I'm a 40-year-old woman…

WHILE the start of a new school term is an exciting and busy time, it can also be nerve-racking for parents and children. Many moms and dads battle to get their kids out of holiday mode and back into a routine – and it’s not helped by a lack of enthusiasm from kids who are not naturally organised or motivated. You’re already girding your loins for the cries of, “Mom, I can’t find my socks/PT clothes/pencil bag!” Or maybe there’s a little kernel of dread in the pit of your stomach that you’re once again going to be faced with a child who’s anxious about school. “For kids who struggle with concentration – as well as those who are anxious – being organised can be even more of a challenge,”…

LIFE is designed to have challenges that none of us believers can escape. Whether we like it or not, we are predestined to meet some on our journey of faith. Even so, we are meant to be overcomers. Revelations 12:11 says: “And they overcame him because of the blood of the Lamb and because of the word of their testimony, and they did not love their life even when faced with death.”This scripture encourages us to acknowledge the Lordship of Jesus in our lives. OVERCOMING THE DEVIL Overcoming means the ability to resist the enemy (the devil) who manipulates our human bodies (the flesh) and our circumstances to keep us within his boundaries of wickedness. As humans we all face difficulties in our endeavours to achieve our goals in life…

BEAUTIFUL AND LOVING LADY I’m a 34-year-old single man from Gauteng. I’m looking for a beautiful, loving, caring and God-fearing single lady between the ages of 21 and 28. She must have no child. She must also be from Northern Cape, North West, Limpopo, Mpumalanga or Gauteng. If interested, please call me on: 073 711 3392 A MAN WHO CAN LOVE AND CARE FOR ME I’m a 25-year-old woman from Mbombela in Mpumalanga. I’m looking for a man who will love and care for me. I’m a Christian. If you are interested, please send me an email at: ladyprudencemathebula @mail.co.za ARE YOU A GOD-FEARING LADY? I’m a 36-year-old guy from Springs in the East Rand. I’m looking for a relationship with a single lady. She must fear God and be…