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IT’S important to remember that communication is all about getting the right message across in the right way. If you have something important to say, you need to think carefully about how you are going to say it so you reach as many people as you want. It is something Rendani Tshamiswe knows well. This pastor decided she wanted to attract the youth to church so she decided to start rapping her sermons. And it worked so well! Her pews are packed with churchgoers of all ages – even older congregants are delighted by her approach. Turn to page 20 for more on this innovative woman of God and let us know if your church does anything interesting too. Email us: move@ media24.com THE MOVE! TEAM LOVE YOUR SISTERS Many…

HER acting credits are as long as her arm, but there’s one role she’s always remembered for. Sthandiwe Kgoroge was so good at playing Zoleka and her evil twin Zinzi in Generations, that more than a decade after leaving the show people still think she has a secret twin stashed away somewhere. “I think people are joking when they ask me if Zoleka and Zinzi were played by one person or if they were really twins,” she says laughing. Sthandiwe (44) has barely aged since those heady days 14 years ago when she became a household name. “I think it’s good genes,” she says, “and going to gym even though I hate it.” We meet with the award-winning actress at a café in Clearwater Mall, west of Joburg, to hear…

DRESSED in a slim-fit suit, he chases a man through dark streets, with the man’s mistress hot on his heels. It’s all part of the job, and he will do anything to get it done. Moss Makwati (35) is one of the presenters of reality show Uyajola 9/9, alongside musician Molemo “Jub Jub” Maarohanye. The show aims to expose people who are having affairs and, after a few episodes, it seems Moss’ quick thinking and fast feet make him the right man to chase after alleged cheaters. He’s had a bit of practise. Moss spent over a year running after deadbeat dads on the show No Excuse, Pay Papgeld before he moved to Uyajola. “You have to do whatever it takes to get the job done. If the situation requires…

IT TOOK 49 carefully chosen words for her to close one chapter of her life and begin another. “I am a rape survivor,” Zizo Apleni typed. “Was raped by my father for 7 years. I became pregnant, that’s how it came out. I wrote a book about my story: My Father Took Away My Innocence, purified and sanctified at last. I do not have money to print the book.” She pressed the tweet button and those sentences took a life of their own, popping up in feeds across Mzansi and around the world, accompanied by the viral hashtag #ojewakeeng, sparked by the Sotho phrase “O jewa ke eng?” which means “What’s bothering you?” (see box). Her tweet brought promises of financial support for the printing of her self-published book and…

‘THESE ORDERS LAST UNTIL THE ACTUAL DIVORCE IS GRANTED, WHICH CAN SOMETIMES BE A YEAR OR TWO’ Riëtte Oosthuizen, a family law practitioner from Pretoria, says a spouse (including gay or lesbian partners) brings the application in terms of Rule 43 of the Supreme Court Act 59 of 1959. “It is brought by way of an affidavit where they explain under oath to the court why they cannot wait for the divorce to finalise before they get relief,” she says. The applicant can also set out what type of relief they’re seeking, for example maintenance for themselves, maintenance for children, the residence of the children, contact rights with the children, a cost contribution and so on. Oosthuizen says recently a court ordered in terms of a Rule 43 application that…

OLD MAN IN A BAR An old man walks into a bar, and asks the bartender, “Do you have any grapes?” The bartender says, “No, we only sell beer here”. The old man leaves. The next day the old man walks into the bar again, and asks the bartender, “Do you have any grapes?” The bartender says, “No, like I said yesterday, we only sell beer here”. The old man leaves. The following day the old man walks back into the bar and asks the bartender, “Do you have any grapes?” The bartender says, “No, I already told you we only sell beer, and if you ask me again I’m going to nail your lips to the bar.” The next day the old man walks back into the bar, and…

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WINTER is here. And with it comes colder weather that often leads to health complications such as fever and colds. This means that those of us who are HIV-positive must take extra care of our health. Getting any illness, whether we're on ARVs or not, puts our immune system (our defence system against germs, bacteria and viruses) under more strain. It already fights the HIV and now it has the additional work of fighting the cold or fever virus. A weak immune system can also help HIV gain momentum during an illness. Fortunately, there are steps we can take to help strengthen our immune system and help prevent health complications. ‘A WEAK IMMUNE SYSTEM CAN HELP HIV GAIN MOMENTUM’ HEALTHY EATING Good nutrition is essential for people living with HIV.…

LEO (22 JUL – 22 AUG) It’s a time where pleasure rates above work. Whether you want to hang out with your friends, spend time on your favourite hobby or visit art galleries and theatres, it’s aweek to take periodic breaks and enjoy yourself. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 7, 11, 20, 36, 44, 49 VIRGO (23 AUG – 22 SEP) It seems to be a good week to turn your attention inwards and engage in a bit of soulsearching. It’s the perfect time to uncover hidden aspects of yourself. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 9, 22, 26, 38, 40, 52 LIBRA (23 SEP – 22 OCT) It’s a week to go on outings with your friends, whether you want to splurge on shopping, enjoy a concert or indulge in sweet treats. There’s also…

I’m living with a woman for whom I've paid lobola. We’ve been together for four years and have two children. I haven’t formalised our marriage beyond lobola because I have serious doubts about whether I want to spend the rest of my life with her or not. She’s very angry, controlling, unforgiving and bitter. I have never cheated or hit her but she doesn’t hesitate to slap or disrespect me. I’ve never talked to anyone about this. By not hitting her back even when she challenges me to do so, she believes I’m scared of her but that’s not the case. What can I do?…

THE founding CEO and chairman of American e-commerce giant Amazon, Jeff Bezos, said, “A brand of a company is like a reputation for a person. You earn reputation by trying to do hard things well.” We earn our reputation by our good or bad actions. Whether you’re a parliamentarian, a pastor, a musician or a celebrity, your character is always under scrutiny. Let’s look at the wisdom of scripture on the value of reputation. A GOOD NAME Proverbs 22.1 says, “A good name is to be more desired than great wealth . . .” We all want wealth and comfort but shouldn’t acquire them at all cost. We can’t manipulate, bribe, steal, etc. and still expect to have a good name. A good name lasts, wealth dwindles. A GOOD CONSCIENCE…

Igazi and Scandal! actress Nomhle Nkonyeni, who was just honoured with order of Ikhamanga in silver , died recently after a week in hospital. She was fondly known as the Queen Mother by her fans. Move! readers have their say. Rest in peace, gogo. You have been the best ever. Till we meet again. SIMPHIWE WELLS LACOSTE She was a very good narrator and I doubt anyone can fill her shoes. KHWEZI LAAM My condolences to the family and South Africa as a whole. We’ve lost a legend. BETTIE JOLINGANE May her precious soul rest in peace. I’ll always remember her great narrating voice on Ngempela. KATLEHO TAOLE Rest in peace, ma’am, you are going to be dearly missed and you have left big shoes to fill. Have your rest.…

IT TAKES dozens of texts, five calls and lots of back and forth to finally get to him. And there's a good reason, it turns out. He's so busy with gigs that his internal clock works the other way around. He works through the night and sleeps during the day. Killer Kau, real name Sakhile Hlatshwayo, packs a lot into his work hours. "He is still sleeping after a hectic night of gigging;' his friend and Soweto Music & Entertainment Academy team member, Mpho Makua tells us. This is after a night of celebration at the Soweto club Icon."I was officially launching my EP and also celebrating my 21st birthday;' Killer Kau says proudly. MAKING OF A HIT He hasn't slowed down since the release of his hit song Tholukuthi…

In February 18-year-old Bloemfontein nursing student Keabetswe Jan tweeted four simple words: “O jewa ke eng?,” loosely translated, “What’s bothering you?” It drew thousands of responses. Then, with a friend, she started looking up job openings in different fields to share on Twitter, hoping it could help job-seekers. “We took pictures of job posts and some were sent directly to me by my Facebook followers. We compiled them to share with those in need,” she told TimesLive. “The number of unemployment-related responses absolutely came as a shock. Ididn’t expect so many from unemployed graduates.” Other Twitter users chipped in, offering advice and even financial support. Keabetswe said it was important for her to use Twitter to spread kindness. “I know what it’s like to be in some of those situations…

SHE’S seen so many young people living their lives aimlessly. They wake up to spend the day on the street corner, asking every passerby for R2 or a smoke. And when Sunday rolled around, they were either hungover or making plans to get drunk. They weren’t thinking about church or God. So Rendani Tshamiswe decided to make church a little more exciting to attract the younger generation. She introduced hip-hop style rap sessions to her sermons. And the woman of God has not only managed to attract young people to her church, she has also gained fans all over South Africa for her seamless flow. BEAT FOR GOD She breaks into a quick rap while chatting to Move!. “Murena u a ri funa! Murena o ri tonda! (God loves us.…

1 Cleaning your makeup brushes might be a chore, but you should do it at least once a week. Just like sleeping with your makeup on, leaving your brushes dirty isn’t good for them because your makeup dries and the bristles fall off. 2 Don’t discard your lipstick if there’s still some left in the bottom of the tube. Use a lip brush to get to this bit. Or repot it – use a plastic knife to scoop out the rest and place it ina container, such as a petroleum jelly jar. 3 Groomed brows and slicked-back edges are all the rage. If you don’t have money to buy a spooly or a trendy edge-taming brush, here’s what you can do. For your brows, clean an old mascara wand and…

‘CAN I WITHDRAW THE MONEY I PUT INTO MY LATE MOM’S BANK ACCOUNT?’ Q I WANT MY MONEY BACK My mother passed away recently. Just before this, I deposited R14 000 into her bank account as I wanted her to keep the money for me. I now want to withdraw it before it gets mixed up with her other monies that will form part of her deceased estate. Someone told me that if I withdraw the money I could be arrested. Ihave her pin number and bank card. I also have proof of the deposit I made. ANONYMOUS, MIDRAND A When a bank account holder passes away, the bank must be notified. The bank account will then be frozen. During this time no transactions on the account are allowed. You…

‘MY SON TELLS ME I WAS A LOOSE WOMAN AS I HAD HIM AT A YOUNG AGE’ Q HOW CAN I QUIT DRINKING? I love alcohol and even use the kids’ school fees money for beer. I’ve tried many times to stop and managed for afew days but then I go back to my old bad habits. It’s frustrating because each time I become worse than before I tried to quit. How do I stop? ANONYMOUS, BEREA A Continuing to drink despite it causing problems shows you have become dependent on alcohol. I recommend you contact SANCA’s (South African National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence) national office on 011- 892-3829 or WhatsApp 076-535-1701 for abranch near you to get help. They will do a formal assessment and diagnosis and…

■ At home. Not all nosebleeds need to be treated in a doctor’s room. In fact, most cases can be treated at home or even prevented. Remain calm, sit up straight and tilt your head forward. Then pinch the nostrils between your thumb and index finger for 10 minutes. Do not blow your nose after the bleeding stops. If it recurs, pinch your nose for another 10 minutes. Applying something cold like ice is not particularly helpful, but it’s not harmful either. The myth of wearing keys or other objects around your neck is of no medical help for recurrent nosebleeds. ■ At the doctor. If a nasal pack has been inserted to control bleeding, do not remove it yourself. You need to consult the doctor again.…

KEALEBOGA SELLA She has her own issues. She must deal with them first. In the meantime, tell her you can't go on with the wedding. She needs help. If you don't take the drastic step of leaving, she won't realise the seriousness of her problem. MMATLOU JAN It's easy to say you must leave her, but it’s difficult when kids are involved. Gather some evidence of her abuse and put it in a safe place. If she tries hitting you again, report her to the police. You will then have enough evidence to go to court. PRINCE MALIK You can't build a future with someone who doesn't respect you. Sometimes love alone is not enough. Your fiancée is bitter and needs help. So it's either you find help for her…

GOSPEL powerhouse Sipho “Big Fish” Makhabane tried quitting the industry twice before. But destiny would have none of it and judging by his latest and 34th album, Amandla, he’s here to stay. THE EARLY YEARS Known as Big Fish because of his unmatched talent, the Mpumalangaborn singer says it’s “all because of the grace from above”. Looking back, he says he had so much stacked against him growing up. His parents, Londlala and Mgijimi, named him Umuhlupheki (the poor one) – aname his late grandmother Gogo Shongwe, who raised him while his parents worked away on farms, wouldn’t accept. “She took me to her church, Nazarene Church in Swaziland, and told them she didn’t like my name and had me re-baptised.” And so Sipho was born. Growing up in poor…

Don’t give out private information, such as your ID number, physical address and banking details to strangers. If you decide to meet, do so in a public place. Also, tell a friend where you are going and when you expect to be back. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts. Don’t assume that the person is who they say they are. It’s easy to pretend or provide false information over the phone or online. DISCLAIMER: Move! magazine will not be held responsible/liable for anything that may arise with regard to readers providing each other with personal information. We advise participants to protect themselves from any criminal intent/activity.…

It is possible for the financial officer of the stokvel to miss some payments made by members. This can happen especially if members do not only pay money during meetings but also make EFT or bank deposits directly into the club’s bank account. Another mistake members can make is sending money with an incorrect reference or that is unrecognisable to the treasurer. All of this can make the treasurer’s job difficult. Consider the following It is a good idea for stokvel members to decide on a reference that is suitable for each member. This can either be a name, asurname or both. A reference can also be aunique number allocated to each member. To save time and debates about who paid and who didn’t, it is a good idea for…

HER name means “show them” – and that’s what Shonisani Masutha did when she landed the role that’s made South Africa take note of her. She’s blazing a trail as the first African actress to play a leading role in an Indian production. The 27-year-old reveals she nearly passed up the opportunity to play the role in Zee World show Mehek. “I wasn’t too keen when my agent called. I was tired. But my agent wasn’t having it because the directors of the show really wanted to see me.” AN INDIAN ADVENTURE She got the part in September last year. “When they gave me the role, I almost screamed. About two weeks later the rest of the South African cast and I flew to India.” It was her first overseas…

THE first thing that comes to mind when you hear the name Starbucks is coffee. The American coffee brand, which came to South Africa a few years ago, joined Soho Nails to celebrate Independence Day (a big holiday on 4 July in the US). Guests were treated to different coffee cocktails and dessert. And if you wanted to pamper yourself with a foot and hand massage or a manicure and pedicure, discounts were given. Some of Mzansi’s finest joined in on the festivities, including rapper Nomuzi Mabena and media personalities Mohale Motaung and Lerato Sengadi.…

1 Brinnette Seopela stars in which local reality show? A Date My Family B Big Brother C Real Housewives of Johannesburg D The Voice 2 . . . is a disease in which the pigment cells of the skin are destroyed in certain areas? A Acne B Lupus C Psoriasis D Vitiligo 3 Cricket was first mentioned as . . . in a 1598 court case? A Creckett B Croquet C Cricks D Stumps 4 The use of marijuana in a .. .setting has been made legal? A Office B Party C Private D Restaurant 5 Which of the following foods will help decrease inflammation in the body? A Ox liver B Broccoli C Lentils D Tripe 6 Which tennis ace is known as the “king of Wimbledon”? A Andy…

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‘I’M STRUGGLING TO HAVE AN ERECTION THAT LASTS LONG ENOUGH TO SATISFY HER’ Q HE’S NO LONGER ROMANTIC We have been in a relationship for five years and my man is no longer romantic. This has affected our sex life. What can I do? ANONYMOUS, ATTERIDGEVILLE A Taking care of your relationship, whether romantically or sexually, is equally your responsibility. Admit to your part and decide to be actively involved in future. Tell your partner about your dissatisfaction and own up to your mistakes. Don't blame but suggest solutions for how the two of you can spice up your relationship. Q I HAVE PAIN AFTER SEX I bleed and hurt a lot after sex with my boyfriend. Is it because his manhood is too big? ANONYMOUS, SOWETO A It’s not…

Mandisa Muruge, a counsellor at the Family Life Centre’s Lenasia South office, says: “It will be very difficult to believe anything your boyfriend tells you after having been untruthful about his career. This is why you now have suspicions about how he really makes a living. The foundation of a good relationship is trust, honesty and faithfulness. “You need to make a decision about your future and that of your innocent child by asking yourself the following questions: What attracted you to this man? Was his fake career the draw card? Do you really love him or do you love the man he pretends to be? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Will he provide for your child if you stay? Does he provide…

PAMELA Nyawane* (35) from Ga-Rankuwa, outside Pretoria, never thought she’d be a widow at the age of 30. “I had finally married the man of my dreams and we were raising our two beautiful daughters, aged 8 and 5, together when tragedy struck,” she recalls. “My husband left for work one morning and never came back. “When I received the phone call that he had died in a car accident on his way to work, my world fell apart.” Five years later, Pamela is still trying to pick up the pieces and get used to life without her beloved husband. Dealing with the loss of a partner can be devastating and the pain you experience can feel unbearable. Move! speaks to an expert about acceptance and beginning the journey of…

1 Do you have outfits that you only wear on certain occasions, such as a party dress, or a frock suitable for attending a wedding? A Yes, you have afew clothes that you keep just for special events. B You have alarge selection of outfits that you can wear when going somewhere special. C No, you always buy new clothes if you have aparty or wedding invite. 2 When do you normally wear trainers? A Most of the time as they are your most comfortable footwear. You would wear them to work if you could. B Only when you are relaxing at home. C Only when you are going to the gym or out jogging. 3 You work in an office, and your employer has introduced a ‘dress down Friday’…

THE communities of KwaGqugquma and Gazini in Swayimani, under Mgungundlovu District in KwaZulu-Natal, came out in their numbers for a thanksgiving and reunion event held at KwaGqugquma Community Hall. It was organised by the academics and successful people who were born in the area. They all wanted to thank their parents and have a reunion for learners who attended school in the area between 1970 and 1990.…